Hi there - what an awful time you are having & I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum. I don't have experience of this type of cancer but I have lost both parents & other loved ones to cancer & other things so I do know how it feels. It's like being hit by a train & wondering how you are ever going to get up again or even if you can get up again.

I think it sensible not to make big decisions so soon if you can possibly avoid them & this is so very soon after everything that's happened. What's important is that you take one day at a time. There will, of course, be things you have to do on a daily basis even simple things like making food. But, other than those things don't think about tomorrow it will take care of itself. If you do your grief will take its natural course & whilst that's different for everyone, it's important that you give yourself the time & space to deal with it. Clearly, at this moment, you feel you need to be with your dad &that is what you must do. I'm sure you'll be able to support each other & it will help.

You can't bring your lovely mum back but as I've said to people before, she brought you into the world so that you could have a life & that includes the good & the very sad. I wish it were possible to take away the pain of others but of course we can't but perhaps it will help a tiny bit to know you are not alone & that others on this site who have had similar experiences to yours, will come along & offer their support.

Post here as often as you feel you need to.

I wish you the very best. Try to take care of yourself.

Hi so sorry about your mum this disease is cruel .yes its only a week if you can stay as long as you can  without damaging your career because it will not have sunk in yet and your poor dad will be in despair dont know how old your dad is but if hes in his 70s or 80s it would be advisable to get gp to check him over as all rhe sudden stress hormones released can have a bad effect .iv lost mum and dad some years ago but my partner just over a year ago . Your dad will need company and someone to talk to may i suggest you ring your local hospice speak to head bereavment counciler get some advice councilling could be a great help at least it gets him out and as life goes back to normal it will not for him so that weekly chat might just be a lifeline .sometimes a stranger with expierance is eisier to talk to and yourself and siblings if you have any once again so sorry .paul

Thank you, Purrfect and Paul. Your support and guidance mean so much, and are very helpful. I’m going to focus on taking one day at a time, and have spoken to my dad about seeing his GP. He’s going to go next week. 

Today’s the first day I listened to music since my mum passed. I chose Nick Cave’s “Into my arms”. I always thought it a beautiful song, but now it has special relevance. Here it is: https://youtu.be/gxAOL_w2Ujo

Hi good your dads going to gp he will know what to look for they call it broken heart sydrome nothing to worry about .yes i was same for months couldnt listen to music i i know your in dispair and numbe but the pain dwindles in time same for your dad . ive had it still have but nothing like at the begining a few never do you learn a lot on here but you have to just take one day at a time .best wishs to you and your dad .paul ps i do beleive no one realy dies i think our energy is still around its a strange feeling i dont feel lonely just miss her physical presence some will say thats rubbish but i dont now and i was the biggest sinic on earth before so hold onto that thought maybe mention it to your das theres been a lot of talk about this if you look back on otheres posts its quite common 

Hi - I'm so glad it's helped a bit talking to others here. It's good your listening to good music it will help I'm sure. Don't stop posting if you feel you need to.

Love to you & your dad. x