Hi Sarah,

I have just come across your post as I’m also curious about people’s experiences of “signs” after losing a loved one.

I lost my Gran in February, she was more of a second Mum. During her last few days I asked her to send me a sign that she was ok and still with me in some way. For 4 nights afterwards I had horrible dreams about her ending and didn’t feel that she was “close” in any way as many people seem to report when they have lost a loved one.

On night 5, I had a picture of her framed which I placed next to her cardigan on the drawers in my bedroom and I suddenly felt that “closeness” others have described. That night I had a very vivid dream I was in her kitchen and saw her stood at the top of her street with her friend who had died many years before (I have never thought of this friend since). She left her friend, walked into her kitchen and told me she was ok. She looked how she had looked pre-illness and was wearing the cardigan I had in my room. It then flashed to my Gran no longer being there and me finding out I was pregnant.

When I woke up I couldn’t yet bring myself to look over at her picture so I went straight into the bathroom, had a shower and decided I was now ready to go and say Morning to her picture. As I entered the doorway of my bedroom I looked over at the drawers and her picture frame had moved completely and was lay flat, face up. There was no possible explanation for it having moved in any way (I thought of everything possible!) It stopped me in my tracks.

A week later, I discovered that I’m pregnant. I later discovered my due date is 15/11 - My Grans birthday. 

I haven’t had any “signs” since and I also haven’t felt that closeness since however I would like to think that the above was the “sign” that I asked for and it gives me comfort reading other peoples experiences.

Jenna 

Hi there Jenna. .

How lovely ... and I know they are not there always ... at first I'd ask mum to move something ... it never happened .. but I know through the years too much has happened that can't be explained .. I think they know when to give a sign, or help in some way ... l feel now at piece with the thought she's looking down, not only with me but my two lads ... they know when they are really needed .. not just wanted or Wed have them all the time ..

How lovely to have a new little life to look forward to .. and l bet your nan will be there looking at the baby too ... I'm really close to my granddaughter. ... and know nothing will stop me watching over her .. 

This is a wonderfull thread ... yes we don't know if they are here .. but then we can't see the air we breath, but we know it's there ... Chrissie x

Yes I found a lump in my armpit last week and obviously went to the doctor's and have got a urgent 2 week appointment. Well I have been worried sick, but every day at work this week a feather has just been there. I'm a gardener and I was sweeping up rubbish on a customer's driveway and it was spotless, I went to walk into the back garden and there was this pure white perfect feather lying on the drive. There were no birds or trees in site. I must have picked up at least 10 feathers in 4 days. Definitely my husband or another loved one saying we are here for you :-)

That’s lovely I’m the same a pure white feather in my hall bear in mind I live on the 3rd floor and there’s no window around then in my car and then again as I walked down the road it just circled infront of me I just had a colposcopy and was told from what she can see it’s worse than we thought and not to book anything for the next 8 months waiting on biopsy results now and to say the least I’m terrified 

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I know it really is scary. My husband unfortunately passed away from cancer 19 years ago when he was only 31. Our son was only 5 at the time. My sister had ovarian cancer and they had to remove everything including her womb and cervix, but 4 years down the line and she is fighting strong. I really believe it has all gone :-). Keep strong and I will friend request you, so you can message whenever you feel like it. All the best Tina X

I'm in the same position, waiting for my biopsy results.

I to stop and take a breath when I see a white feather.

But not seen any lately.

Instead I had one of my deja vu episodes. And it didn't run well . 

The wait is ridiculous in this country 4 to 6 weeks we leave ya stew and stress and worry it’s just not on I’m in so much pain think I may have an infection no bleeding but 7 days since I’ve had the biopsy and I’m very sore  is that normal how are u feeling yourself hun I’m trying so hard to stay busy and not stress too much it’s so hard 

Mine is also sore, no infection.

They were taken last Thursday afternoon.

I'm in next Monday for my results.

Keep yourself busy is a good a good idea. Ive started making the scrapbooks up I should have done 5 years ago haha! Amazing what makes you shift ya bum and do things.

Phone up and chase them up.

Where are you she said 4 to 6 weeks is quick I’m in Dublin, Ireland the nurse said there is a huge backlog madness.  I had mine last Wednesday Ino the kids are back to school this week and I’m in part time college and starting full time next week that will keep me busy I also decided to go out the weekend and have some fun it was well needed and actually took my mind off everything 

I'm in Crewe, Cheshire. 

I was expecting to start my new job last Saturday, but because of the nature advised not to. And I wouldn't forgive myself if I made any mistakes with my mind being else where. 

Kids go back day after results. So not looking forward to it. As my eldest is starting secondary school.

No matter what, I need to keep it together until his first week is out of the way. 

My eldest is in 3rd year she went back today then my other daughter is into 6th class and my baby is starting junior infants so it’s all go. First year is so hard on them isn’t it they are so nervous it’s all so new and getting used to different rules and teachers etc oh god I’m hoping they hurry with results I was told not to plan anything special for 6 to 8 months but I refuse to let it take over my life I recently left my job to go back and study I’ve spent the last 6 months doing part time college while working part time with 3 kids it was not easy I was looking forward to taking this time to get stuck into college full time and I’m not letting this stop me I will cross whatever bridge comes at me when it comes I got this 

Hi I'm new x To cut a long story short... Yesterday I was very upset about a situation which was out of my hands xx I felt absolutely depressed down and cried most of the day .I have not felt like this for years it was awfull.. around 4 o'clock when no body butme was in the house my son's bedroom door opened .. there was no wind or Windows open.thenthe washing machine stopped there was an overwhelmingly smell of hot electric. I change the settings it was fine .. tonight went to see mum her washing was on the units .she had the same experience as me.. weird

Hi I'm new x To cut a long story short... Yesterday I was very upset about a situation which was out of my hands xx I felt absolutely depressed down and cried most of the day .I have not felt like this for years it was awfull.. around 4 o'clock when no body butme was in the house my son's bedroom door opened .. there was no wind or Windows open.thenthe washing machine stopped there was an overwhelmingly smell of hot electric. I change the settings it was fine .. tonight went to see mum her washing was on the units .she had the same experience as me.. weird