Hi Hun xx

so sorry for your loss. 

We have a similar story...you said Mum had developed a cough...was she diagnosed with lung cancer? xx 

My Mum died aged 57 from lung cancer. She developed a cough that would not go away. However, she was dismissed by her GP as having a chest infection. 

It wasn’t until my cousin took her to A & E that they found a ‘shadow’ on her lung. Sadly, we lost her only three weeks after diagnosis (no chance for her to start treatment (chemotherapy)...it was on both lungs and liver by the time they found it. Before they could start chemotherapy she had to be treated for fluid on the lungs and other complications...but she passed very quickly before her chemo could commence). 

Your story is heartbreaking........but you are right.....there was nothing you could have done unfortunately and....I know you said you were planning on seeing your Mum on the Monday and that is perfectly reasonable....nobody expects their mum to pass so suddenly xx 

You have so much going on right now.....I am so sorry you’re going through this....I am a few years on in my journey from my mum’s passing but...as someone who has also lost their mum at a similar age I can say....it does get better xx 

Hi there ..

So sorry you lost your mum, and you missed her call .. my mum went suddenly with a heart attack... and I never got the chance to say good bye too ... it's so painful because we were blessed with lovely mum's .. I,  like you knew when the phone rang that day, it was my mum and felt sick as I picked the phone up ..

I was 36 when I lost mum but I have felt her around .. I believe they watch over us ... when I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I found beautiful white feathers everywhere even in my bra .. the day I got the news it was contained, they stopped ... so if you ever feel or get a clue she's close, believe it ..

There's no easy way through grief .. that first year is like a raw year, like a wound that won't heal ... but we do get used to not having them around .. but the missing is there always, and we have to learn to live with that .. so be kind to your heart, and know it's just trying to make sense of what's happened, when there is none ... sending you a vertual hug ... Chrissie x

Hi, 

Yes it was stage 4 lung cancer. There was shadows in her scan also. I honestly thought she wouldn’t go when she would so soon. I really do appreciate your reply as mine and your story is very similar. Thank you so much. X x 

Hi, 

thank you for your reply. When your mensioned white feather I found a small white feather on the floor in my bedroom. Don’t no where it came from. I think she is near me watching over. I love her so much!! 

Thank you again and I’m sending you a vertual hug back x x x 

Hi Leanne I think your mum would be so happy to know that she meant so much to you.

Perhaps she is secretly glad that you didn't have to see her go through a lingering illness.

Trust she is with you in spirit and she knows that you will give her love to your children, her grandchildren and that you can cope.

You can always draw strength by thinking of her.

No one ever can be sure of the hour of their passing but I am fairly confident that their relatives on the other side come forward to meet them.

I find it very wholesome that you find the quiet hours a good time to miss your mum because these are also the most peace full hours.

Do not exhaust yourself with grieving because daily life can be very demanding and you need to keep your energy for family.

Remember your mum in your peaceful sleep where she may be able to project her mind to meet yours.

Sweet dreams.x

Thank you so much x x x x

Thank you , I appreciate your reply x x x