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Losing my wife at 32

JD18
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Hello 

I lost my beautiful wife in Dec 2017 only 3 months after she fell ill with metastatic melanoma. She was only 32 and we had just celebrated our 1st anniversary. My wife went from fit, healthy and beautiful in Sept 2017 to not being able to walk by Christmas - I cannot understand the cruelty my wife faced. I know I have been trying to ignore my grief, but the pain and sadness is all consuming and I’m struggling now to cope with everything; my job, my friends and there lives, my family, my wife’s family - I am drowning in a world where everyone seems to be normal and my life isn’t anymore. I don’t want this life. 

My wife was amazing and we had such a happy life and future to look forward too - we’ve been robbed of that and now I’m just so sad. I don’t know how I’m supposed to cope now without her by my side. 

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     Hi 

    I've lost my wife of 57 years two weeks ago ,I can't believe it everyone around me are carrying on as always ,the last words my wife spoke to me was ( what's happening to me ) I don't want to carry on living I can't without her I don't beleave but take me now please and if there is somewhere I'll be there with her no matter what we've seen the world together now let's find out more together it fair she went at home I held her hand but she did not know I was there no pain she sleeper away so peacefully..

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     Hi 

    I've lost my wife of 57 years two weeks ago ,I can't believe it everyone around me are carrying on as always ,the last words my wife spoke to me was ( what's happening to me ) I don't want to carry on living I can't without her I don't beleave but take me now please and if there is somewhere I'll be there with her no matter what we've seen the world together now let's find out more together it fair she went at home I held her hand but she did not know I was there no pain she sleeper away so peacefully..

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  • in reply to Smokeyjoe

    Hi Smokeyjoe, 

    I noticed the member you're replying to, JD18, hasn't been on the forum in a while and the last comment in this discussion (before yours) was back in March so I just wanted to pop by to let you know that your post has been seen and we are here for you.

    I really hope our members will offer their support and advice to you soon but if you feel like you're really struggling then do reach out to your GP for support. I can see Moderator Lucie replied to the post you made on another discussion on the 9th October and included some links to charities and organisations that may be able to help at this time. I'm not sure if you saw her reply but if not I'll include a link to it just here so you can have a look.

    I can't even begin to comprehend how difficult this must be for you but I hope knowing that our community understand what you're going through can offer some comfort to you at this time.

    Sending all my support and a very big virtual hug your way Smokeyjoe.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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