Hi Sarah,

I know this is an old post but out of sheer desperation I randomly typed into google the words "I can't believe my dad has gone" and your post came up. It is only been about 3 and a half weeks since my Dad passed and I just wanted to let you know i think it is totally normal to feel this way and that i hope you are feeling more hopeful now more time has gone by xx

Hi

I don't do online forums or what have you, so sorry if this is clunky or ill judged (I'm in my 30s so not too old for this stuff, just chose to stay away from technology!)

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my own precious father in May and I am struggling to cope even 6 months later. I googled same as you and got here - my dad had previously had cancer and survived so I was complacent, but he got secondary cancer and then all sorts of complications which accelerated his demise. We were all with him when he died and don't think we can have regrets about stuff but I get flashbacks and waves of utter despair. Does it ever get easier? My mum was doing brilliantly but now wants to end it all and it is horrific to see. They were a couple who loved and grew together for 50 years and were besotted. I couldn't even dream of this relationship with anyone. She will never get over it.... 

Love to all who have loved and lost xx

Hope you are ok xxx

I too lost my dad in May this year, I only found out he had cancer a week before he passed. I get flash backs of him hallucinating and crying out in pain, it was the most heart breaking thing I have ever seen in my life. 

I cant believe he has gone and as Christmas approaches it’s just getting difficult to cope with.

i lost my mum too a year before my dad which was also sudden. 

Theres no time on grief, I’m only 36 which I feel is young for no parents. My children only have one grandparent left as my husband lost his dad too at the age of 20 

i cant see time will ever heal, I’ll always be scarred inside.

I too lost my dad in May this year, I only found out he had cancer a week before he passed. I get flash backs of him hallucinating and crying out in pain, it was the most heart breaking thing I have ever seen in my life. 

I cant believe he has gone and as Christmas approaches it’s just getting difficult to cope with.

i lost my mum too a year before my dad which was also sudden. 

Theres no time on grief, I’m only 36 which I feel is young for no parents. My children only have one grandparent left as my husband lost his dad too at the age of 20 

i cant see time will ever heal, I’ll always be scarred inside.