I still can’t believe my dad has gone.

It’s coming up to 3 months since my dad died and I still can’t accept that he has gone. I carry I heavy ness around with me on my chest making it hard to breath. At night the pain is really bad and I see him laying in the bed dying and his face. I can’t seem to picture him before, I can barely look at a picture for a few seconds before it’s too painful. I can’t look ahead anymore, all my future seems to have gone and it’s too painful to even try and think about it as he isn’t going to be in it. I hope this is all normal because it doesn’t feel like it to me!

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  • Hi,

    I lost my dad almost 3 months a go too. I can't offer you advice because I'm completely lost myself. I can tell you (and feel relieved myself) that you're not alone. 

     

  • I've just lost my Dad x literally 6 weeks tomorrow and I still can't believe he is gone. I can't stop crying. As an only child I was so close to him and he was my hero. He didn't even tell me he was ill. He died of Stage 4 bladder cancer. Collapsed at home on the Friday, dies on the Tuesday x I feel sad, angry, lost. He was my hero. What now????

  • What now is taking time to process what has happened but don't spend the whole day doing that live and do what you normally would then take the time to try and process things. I try and say right ok everyone on earth has to die and transition from this world to the spirit world so that is what has happened. They would want us to live life to the fullest now be happy

    and enjoy while we can then when it is our time to be reunited that will happen. It is nice to know we will be reunited in that way but nice to now that actually they are still with us just in another format and if you focus on that you realise they never actually leave us. 
     

    it's crippling pain and I am still in disbelief if I'm totally honest but i am starting to realise that it is inevitable for everyone so enjoy what you can each day 

     

    Hope you are ok xxx

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  • What now is taking time to process what has happened but don't spend the whole day doing that live and do what you normally would then take the time to try and process things. I try and say right ok everyone on earth has to die and transition from this world to the spirit world so that is what has happened. They would want us to live life to the fullest now be happy

    and enjoy while we can then when it is our time to be reunited that will happen. It is nice to know we will be reunited in that way but nice to now that actually they are still with us just in another format and if you focus on that you realise they never actually leave us. 
     

    it's crippling pain and I am still in disbelief if I'm totally honest but i am starting to realise that it is inevitable for everyone so enjoy what you can each day 

     

    Hope you are ok xxx

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