New to this.

 Hi, not sure why I’m doing this as never done a message board before. 

Buried our 21 year old daughter on Saturday, my wife 8 years ago, have a son about to turn 18 and feel my world has collapsed.I have cared for our daughter 24 hours a day for almost 2 years and 12 years in total been looking after my wife and kids. We have a great son but has a girlfriend, kids are beyond anything we could have wished for but now I feel empty and alone. Lost all but 2 of my friends and they live hours away, sorry to sound depressed, I am not, just putting it all out there and wondering how people rebuild their lives, what did you do? I actually hope I am the first to ask this and no one has gone through this. 

  • Hi sven nothing wrong with what your doing on here.this a club none of us want to be in but in it we are .ive lost a grandchild and the love of my life .so i can say i know how it is ive been grieving a month iv gone out and got some bereavment counciling its not a miricical cure but helps slightly i find that putting something ahead of me to look forward to each week has kept me going and some of the kind people on this sites coments have made me feel not so alone so talk talk talk till your sick of talking  .so sorry for your loss just beware of the false guilt the inner critic we have keeps trying to punnish us with .the shoulda coulda thats the worse thing to start  sounds to me you should pat yourself on the back the care you gave . Regards p

  •  Thank you for post and sorry you also know pain. I will take your advise and plan one thing. Kind regards S