Hi 

So sorry to hear of the passing of your mum 

My mum (50) passed away April this year , 3 month's after b3ing diagnosed with lung cancer to then be told 2 weeks later that it was terminal ....im 25 im finding it so hard to cope ... my mum was literally my best friend i turned to her about everything ...im kept busy most days but its night time that really gets to me as well as lack of sleep and as well panic attacks,  I went to the doctors about not being able to sleep feeling very down etc they suggested anti depressants but I'm not one for tablets so cruse bereavement counselling was suggested I'm start in September it's maybe something that would help? 

The world is too cruel and for me I keep thinking why couldn't it be the bad people that gets things like this...

My mum was also a nurse that helped people in their last month's/weeks/days so I find myself thinking this alot with alot of anger  questions why? Why my mum? Why so young? Such a caring person .... 

Hope this helps

Hiya Cmae,

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your mum and at such a young age.

It is hard to deal with and I too get angry thinking why wasn't it someome horrible that was made to suffer.

You're mum sounds like a fantastic lady who help people at the worst time of their lives. I cannot thank the nurses who helped my mum enough.

I was the same with panic attacks and I'm not one for antidepressants either. I have however just put my name down for grief counselling, so thanks for that. Hope it helps a little when you start.

Take care xxx

Hi it's so nice to find a chat room where people feel like I do. No one seems to understand how I feel. I lost my mum last April 2018. She was an amazing woman who I went to for anything . She loved my girls and I so much and would do anything for us. She died of cancer and was taken from us too soon , she was 71. My dad has now anounced he has met someone new , what I've hear she is making him happy but I just can't except it, I can't visualize her next to him. I am overwhelmed with grief and am too loyal to my mum to meet her. I know I will just break down and cry. 

Everybody is happy for him and can't understand why I feel the way I do . Is it just me or does anyone else feel like me .

Thanks Julie 

Hi it's so nice to find a chat room where people feel like I do. No one seems to understand how I feel. I lost my mum last April 2018. She was an amazing woman who I went to for anything . She loved my girls and I so much and would do anything for us. She died of cancer and was taken from us too soon , she was 71. My dad has now anounced he has met someone new , what I've hear she is making him happy but I just can't except it, I can't visualize her next to him. I am overwhelmed with grief and am too loyal to my mum to meet her. I know I will just break down and cry. 

Everybody is happy for him and can't understand why I feel the way I do . Is it just me or does anyone else feel like me .

Thanks Julie 

Hiya Julie265,

I'm so very sorry to hear about your mum and losing her to this horrible disease. She sounds like she was a wonderful mum and best friend.

It's hard for some to understand and everyone is different in how they cope with these things. You have to grieve however and for as long as you need to. It's something we will never get over, but unfortunately have to learn to live with as time goes on. It's been 2 years for me now and it still feels like yesterday.

I also understand about your dad being with someone else as my dad is too. It wasn't long after mum passed, so that has also added to the pain. A few people seem to think I should be ok with it, but I'm just not. It doesn't feel right him being with someone who isn't my mum, so I have kept my distance. Again people need to understand that just because they are ok with it, it doesn't mean you have to be too.

I really do feel your pain Julie, it's like a club that you don't want to be a member of, before you go through it, you never fully understand  xxx