How do i cope

Its been a while since i last posted been looking after my husband full time he had terminal penile cancer that had spread he was taken into Mary Stevens Hospice on the 27th Dec for high calcium he had his treatment and fluids to try and lower it unfortunately my beloved husband passed away on the 9th January with me by his side he was 43 i am absolutely devastated we only got married on the 27th Oct 2016 we got together late in life he was the love of my life and i was his how do i carry on without him his funeral isnt until the 5th february i judt dont know what to do or how to feel i cant function at all xx

  • Hello Mattocks25,

    I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. On behalf of everyone here at Cancer Chat I offer you our sincere condolences.

    When you feel ready for it you might want to have a look at this page with information on coping with grief and hopefully that will help you a little.

    Thinking of you at this difficult time.

    Warm wishes,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

  • Oh Mattocks, I am so sorry for your loss, especially when you had so short a time together.  Nothing I say just now will make you feel much better but please know that my thoughts are with you.  You made him happy.

    Sending hugs and God bless.

    Hazel xx

  • I am sorry you have had your happiness snatched away from you so cruelly.  I hope you have family and friends who are being there for you and trying to help.  I can only suggest that you take one day at a time; don't look any further forward or it will be too much to bear.  Once the funeral is over on Monday this may be slightly easier but it will be still be hard.  There are many people posting on this forum who know the despair following the death of their loved one and who will understand what you are going through.  Only time will start to ease the pain a little so please be kind to yourself and let those who care for you help you through the hard time you are experiencing.

  • My deepest condolences on the loss of your husband, Mattocks25. As a penile cancer sufferer myself, your loss especially moves me. I wish you every strength. xx Harry 

  • Hello

    my husband died 11th January and we cremated him 23red January 

    we got married on the 16th august after 23 years together

    he was only 43

    leaves a massive hole

    and two boys aged 10 and 9