Hi Jess

i read your post today the first time, albeit it's 2 years later, but I am sure from your message time probably has no meaning, and everything you wrote struck a chord with me, as I also recently lost my mother and think of her all day everyday. Bless you and your family and I hope some form of healing has found it's way to you all.

julian

Hi Terry - a very stressful time during the end of life pathway, as I went through the same with mum this time last year. Use this time to whisper thanks for everything to your mum (although I'm sure she already knows) and anything else that means a lot to you, I look back at this time as special

blessings

Thank you. I swing from sadness to meloncholy to guilt to unbearable heartache. I do speak to her yes. My Dad is with her. They have been married 66 years. It all seems so unfair. Terry

I honestly have not related to a post about losing a mother more than I have this one, everything you said I feel. Forgive me because my mum didn't pass from cancer but I just couldn't leave without commenting how much I relate to your post.

my mum has been gone 4 weeks now and I literally feel the same! Where has she gone and what the hell? My mum has actually died!! It's unbelievable and I cannot believe it still even though I have seen her with my own eyes and felt her with my own hands. It's ludicrous to me that she is no longer here. It gave me comfort knowing somebody else feels the same as me. I am so so sorry for your loss and I hope time has helped at least a little since your mum passed xx

I second everything you have said. The original post was exactly how I feel now, my mum died 4 weeks ago and it is inconceivable to me that she has gone forever. How are you feeling now?  I cannot even imagine a life where mum isn't present. I miss her so much and want to call her everyday to tell her things xx

Hey Amy,

I thought I would link this for you to read - I remember finding it when my mum first passed and it resonated so much, it's such a beautiful metaphor. It's the top comment: www.reddit.com/.../

I hope it resonates with you too x

It's weird - for me, it is coming up to 5 years without her. Her not being here is honestly still incomprehensible, and I find it difficult remembering what it was like when she was here beause my life has changed so much since she's been gone. I think about her every day still!

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Life is just so unfair sometimes. I write to my mum in a diary every now and then, it brings me a bit of comfort, maybe it will help you a bit too.

So sorry about your mum and that you are going through this, sending you love and hugs! x

Dear Jess, I am so so sorry that you lost your wonderful mum. That must have been such a shock and devastating for you to have to go through. I know how it feels, nothing on earth can prepare you for the pain and loneliness that comes after. I lost my mum as well after she had breast cancer and I struggled so so much and felt the exact same way as you.

I know I can't say much to help you as not a lot is going to stop you hurting right now. But I want you to know that you are not alone in feeling this way. 

Keep talking here with us, talking is a big help through these horrible times. I wish I'd come here when my mum passed away.

I'm sending you all the love and hugs in the world, ️

Love Jess (I'm a Jess/Jessica as well) :)