Sorry to hear about your mum.

If I was in your position. I would, if you can, go back and see your mum it would let you see that she is at rest and peace this would be the last image of her you will see rather than her struggling. 

x

Thank you Linda. 

I am so torn if I should or not. I am struggling with not knowing where she is. Surely that can't just be it? I wish I had more faith in god and believed she is watching me and waiting for me. 

Do you think she is? X

Hello Chrissie

I hope you can find the strength to see your mum for the last time. I realise it will be tremendously hard to do this, but I do not think you will regret it. 

It is a desperately sad and difficult time for you and I wish you all the best

Chris x

Thank you Chris.

will she look like her? Or will she look like she did when she passed? 

I'm  so scared x

It is hard. I lost my mum a number of years ago and though I was scared to visit her in the undertakers, I was glad I did. I think you will regret it if you don't go and see your mum for the last time before the funeral. 

I am not religious but always feel that they are looking down on you.

x

I think most undertakers do a marvellous job, in my judgement.

Should you go I think you will not regret it.

x

I lost my closest friend in the whole world and had been for over 25yrs, on the 1st Aug 2019 after her long 4 and half year battle with cancer. Even though it was still sudden and totally rocked my world!!! I’ve been in bits since and unable to believe she is gone so I decided I had to see her before funeral tomorrow. I’ve just got back from the chapel of rest and Iam so glad I went. It was an intimate goodbye as well as helping me come to terms that she is really gone, don’t get me wrong it broke my heart into a million pieces and it also didn’t look like the crazy fun loving lady I always new but it was her and it did help me to say goodbye in my own way and know she isn’t in that body anymore so she has to have gone somewhere hopefully somewhere better where she isn’t in pain anymore xxx

I lost my closest friend in the whole world and had been for over 25yrs, on the 1st Aug 2019 after her long 4 and half year battle with cancer. Even though it was still sudden and totally rocked my world!!! I’ve been in bits since and unable to believe she is gone so I decided I had to see her before funeral tomorrow. I’ve just got back from the chapel of rest and Iam so glad I went. It was an intimate goodbye as well as helping me come to terms that she is really gone, don’t get me wrong it broke my heart into a million pieces and it also didn’t look like the crazy fun loving lady I always new but it was her and it did help me to say goodbye in my own way and know she isn’t in that body anymore so she has to have gone somewhere hopefully somewhere better where she isn’t in pain anymore xxx

Hello elsbelsxxx,

I am sure it was a traumatic visit seeing your friend. I don't think you will regret it having a last chance seeing them.

I did see my wife in the chapel of rest and although it was very upsetting I am glad I went to say my goodbyes.

I hope the funeral went as well as it could.