Hurt over mums death

We lost mum to cancer 3 weeks ago now. It was awful to watch her the last couple of days breathing horribly, looking awful and speaking to spirits of passed family members. But what I can't get out of my head is her actual last breaths and dying. She took this almighty gasp and looked as though she was in pain on her face and it's eating me up thinking she was almost scared or in pain to be going. Is thus normal for dying cancer patients to do this?? 

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  • Hi, 

    I'm very sorry to hear of your Mum's passing. It's an awful experience xx We lost our Mum in September this year, she had Primary Central Nervous System Lymphoma. We had a similar experience from what I can see. Mum was in hospital and it was just awful watching her breathe, thinking every time is this the last. My mum also did the long gasping breath, and I was told by the nurse that it is normal. It's not like how they depict it on TV or in films at all is it? 

    What I found great comfort in is being there when she passed, I believe she knew you we were there. I also admire her strength and love for her family even more now than ever. 

     

    Do do you have a support network to lean on? Feel free to message me here xxxx 

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  • Hi, 

    I'm very sorry to hear of your Mum's passing. It's an awful experience xx We lost our Mum in September this year, she had Primary Central Nervous System Lymphoma. We had a similar experience from what I can see. Mum was in hospital and it was just awful watching her breathe, thinking every time is this the last. My mum also did the long gasping breath, and I was told by the nurse that it is normal. It's not like how they depict it on TV or in films at all is it? 

    What I found great comfort in is being there when she passed, I believe she knew you we were there. I also admire her strength and love for her family even more now than ever. 

     

    Do do you have a support network to lean on? Feel free to message me here xxxx 

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