Hi Gracey,

I have just seen your post, sending you a hug...

You are a little girl to your Mum always, and I feel your pain and to experience such on New Years Eve.

I lost my Mum on Mummys day...

No matter what day the loss feels unbearable, but it makes me wonder why certain days?

Is it a message to us, to speak to us in some way?

Initially it would seem too much and why such days, but another way, is it our Mums with us forever just on a different level. Saying Hi, and on important days they increase their presence to help us cope and continue... they Are with us always...

I have struggled and still am, we may look to continue and seem pretty human on the outside, but on the inside, its a whole other story, eh...

Im 57, and I am still my mums little girl, as that is what we both are Gracey, our Mums little Girls...

And Im sure they are watching over us....

I will take a look at the podcast you mention, Hope you continue to find strength in little things,  inc how special you are to be your Mums little Girl and how special your Mum was for having You as her Daughter...xx

I talk to my Mum even thr my tears, I believe she can hear me, its just hard to nt hear her speak back...

But I nd to remember to listen now for her with my heart, not my ears...xxx

Hey, I'm reading your message from a hospice room while I watch my mom's breathing slow down. And I hear you loud and clear - no one should bury their mom in their 20s. It feels like there was so much growing that I could have done alongside her, I'm so scared of forgetting all her stories and not being able to tell her nieces and  the future kids in the family. Today it's also 2 days before my 28th birthday, and I wasn't wishing that she'd make it because I know how much pain she's having to endure but I just wish I didn't have to celebrate my life when every single minute after this exact one will feel like needles in my eyes. After 4 years and a lifetime looking after her, I literally don't know how to live without her, nor do I want to. I hope that you have found some hope and willingness to carry on through your children, your mom would be proud just keep doing this for her, if she's anywhere watching you (which I like to believe it's true) you'll want to show her that her legacy continues and that youre implementing her advice, keeping her present but not letting the pain hold you back. That's what I'm planning on doing, I hope that I can. Sending you a warm hug x

My mum died last year 8 days before my 14th birthday and in two months it will be a year and I honestly just don't see a point in life without her 

Hi starling0359,

Sorry to hear about your mum. We have all lost ours but to lose yours when you are so young must be even harder.

Who do you have supporting  you? Can you talk to friends or a teacher? Do you have your dad and any brothers or sisters?

Dont forget you have done so well to get through the last 10 months and are making your mum proud. She would want you to carry on and enjoy life, do well at school etc.

There will be other people on this forum who will also have lost their mum young who will be able to provide some comfort.

Thinking of you.

Cheryl x

Please my darling , I want you everytime you feel down think of what's going to make you mum happy . think of it in this way , she might not be present with you physically , but I am sure she can see  you from where she is and it might sadden her seeing you  feeling down . I want you to live life in the way that it will make your mum proud of you ! I to lost my mother to cancer If the bile duct a rare one (stage 4), and my poor mum wasn't treated with dignity , in her last weeks no hospital wanted to accommodate her and the ones they did it was hardly any care and the bill was like she was staying in five star hotel ! Seeing her suffer was destroying me to bits, being far away from to .I was planning to travel to see her as I didn't see her for 3 years , she doesn't live in the Uk . But she passed away days before the day I was going to fly ,it completely destroyed me the way I'm coping is the way I just adviced u to my darling ! Please stay strong and make your mum proud of you ! 

I’m so sorry hunni , I lost my mum 8 weeks ago also and my world has fallen apart . I don’t know how to carry on as she was my best friend , we moved 2 years ago 300 miles from our home town and now I’m left with no one , I can’t say it’s going to get easier because I think it’s getting harder . I wake up each day as I have two daughters that need me and try do my best to be there for them as my mum was there second mum !! I’m not coping hence being awake this time of night !!! But they don’t need to see this . Keep going darling maybe one day we will feel a bit of hope . Love and hugs xx

Hi to anyone out there

i lost my mum not so long ago in April this year

i was heart broken as I was one of the youngest in my family... I was close to my mum I had also lost my dad some 14 years ago I was pregnant at the time with my first child but fortunately lost it as wrong time wrong place and all that.but soon after I beacons pregnant and happy with my daughter she make me happy and smile everyday. 

Yes you could say I’m orphan no parents I find it hard to get up every morning one step forward two steps back and yes I can’t sleep at nights but I don’t want to go to doctors as they will only give me tablets which I don’t want I rather go healthy options.

when does this feels pass when I lost my dad it was hurtful but I guess cause I had my mum it wasn’t sooo bad. But now no one please help me how can I move forward 

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Hi bottoms,

Sorry to hear about your mum dying and your dad a bit longer ago.

Have you always felt like this since your mum or are the feelings of grief getting worse?

My mum died suddenly 16 weeks ago and I am struggling terribly. My dad also died 21 years ago so I have lost them both and also an adult orphan.

I also have a 12 year old daughter who keeps me going.

I have recently started counselling and am on a waiting list for CBT.

Is this an option for you? I don't know if its going to help yet but am willing to the everything as I am so sad all the time and have no interest in anything.

Like you, i was devastated when my dad died but because i had my mum and we supported each other, we got through it. Now that mum has also gone i feel like i am grieving for them both.

Crying whenever i want to has helped, so has talking about her alot.

Let us know how you get on.

Cheryl x

My nnna died 4 years ago how do I cope with it