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My mum died and I can't cope with the loss

Snowflake72555
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My mum died of liver cancer 9 months ago. I find each day unbearable and find it harder and harder. I can't sleep at night and break down all the time. I miss her so much and my life feels so empty without her. I have two children and I continue for their sake otherwise I wouldn't have the will to get out of bed each day as I feel so down. 

Does it get easier? because right now, it feels awful.

I keep thinking I need to tell mum this and remember she's gone and breakdown. I see people with their mothers and I envy them.

I feel so alone and helpless. Feel like part of me has died too and I struggle to get back up again.

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    My mum died last year 8 days before my 14th birthday and in two months it will be a year and I honestly just don't see a point in life without her 

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    Please my darling , I want you everytime you feel down think of what's going to make you mum happy . think of it in this way , she might not be present with you physically , but I am sure she can see  you from where she is and it might sadden her seeing you  feeling down . I want you to live life in the way that it will make your mum proud of you ! I to lost my mother to cancer If the bile duct a rare one (stage 4), and my poor mum wasn't treated with dignity , in her last weeks no hospital wanted to accommodate her and the ones they did it was hardly any care and the bill was like she was staying in five star hotel ! Seeing her suffer was destroying me to bits, being far away from to .I was planning to travel to see her as I didn't see her for 3 years , she doesn't live in the Uk . But she passed away days before the day I was going to fly ,it completely destroyed me the way I'm coping is the way I just adviced u to my darling ! Please stay strong and make your mum proud of you ! 

     

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    Please my darling , I want you everytime you feel down think of what's going to make you mum happy . think of it in this way , she might not be present with you physically , but I am sure she can see  you from where she is and it might sadden her seeing you  feeling down . I want you to live life in the way that it will make your mum proud of you ! I to lost my mother to cancer If the bile duct a rare one (stage 4), and my poor mum wasn't treated with dignity , in her last weeks no hospital wanted to accommodate her and the ones they did it was hardly any care and the bill was like she was staying in five star hotel ! Seeing her suffer was destroying me to bits, being far away from to .I was planning to travel to see her as I didn't see her for 3 years , she doesn't live in the Uk . But she passed away days before the day I was going to fly ,it completely destroyed me the way I'm coping is the way I just adviced u to my darling ! Please stay strong and make your mum proud of you ! 

     

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