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My mum died and I can't cope with the loss

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My mum died of liver cancer 9 months ago. I find each day unbearable and find it harder and harder. I can't sleep at night and break down all the time. I miss her so much and my life feels so empty without her. I have two children and I continue for their sake otherwise I wouldn't have the will to get out of bed each day as I feel so down. 

Does it get easier? because right now, it feels awful.

I keep thinking I need to tell mum this and remember she's gone and breakdown. I see people with their mothers and I envy them.

I feel so alone and helpless. Feel like part of me has died too and I struggle to get back up again.

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    Hi

    my mum died nearly six months ago. I spent months before she died grieving for her and losing my mind every now and then. When she did go I was ok after the funeral for a couple of months but now I'm finding it hard and I know it'll probably get worse. I've been signed off sick from work because I can't get up in the morning, take the kids to breakfast club and get to work without feeling stressed. I also found myself doing the usual routine but what I needed to do was cry when I woke up - because every morning my mum is the first thing I think about. Sorry to go on, I just wanted you to know that I do know what you're going through. It's horrible, our lives have changed but everything else stays the same but we need to find a new way of living without our mums.

    take care and feel free to message if you want to chat x

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    Morning, 

    the posts I've read this morning make me feel so very sad. 

    I lost my beautiful Mum in September 2016. She was only 56; she died from a rare form of lymphoma, which started on her brainstem. It was heartbreakingly destroying to see her suffer the way she did. My love for her multiplied as I watched her battle with all the strength she had. I am completely distraught by her death. 

    I have days where I think I'm coping but most of my days I feel completely useless. I'm currently off work too as I can't function in the morning.

    Our normal has completely gone and I'm struggling to even think that I can cope without her xx 


     

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    Morning, 

    the posts I've read this morning make me feel so very sad. 

    I lost my beautiful Mum in September 2016. She was only 56; she died from a rare form of lymphoma, which started on her brainstem. It was heartbreakingly destroying to see her suffer the way she did. My love for her multiplied as I watched her battle with all the strength she had. I am completely distraught by her death. 

    I have days where I think I'm coping but most of my days I feel completely useless. I'm currently off work too as I can't function in the morning.

    Our normal has completely gone and I'm struggling to even think that I can cope without her xx 


     

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