Hi jules,glad your ok its nice to hear your doing well and getting on with things, think i have got a way to go yet i seem ok for a few days then feel sad and cry .i am also not a good cook, i was lucky my hubby would eat anything he wasnt a fussy eater good job really .lol take care Syl x
My family do not think there is much wrong with my cooking it is just that I do not enjoy it much and never have (take after my Mum!!). Far happier laying out a buffet and taking the lazy route. Still the for charity coffee morning I did rustle up a couple of cakes which passed muster and I make rock cakes for my son aat the weekend which he liked. Perhaps the electric cooker is going to be my new friend!
My emotions can still catch me out and I think we just have to accept that this is a natural part of mourning the loss of our loved ones. Still hard though when you think about things for too long. I have got into the habit of keeping a few jobs back so that when a 'moment' hits me I allow the tears to come and go and then focus on the job in hand. Needless to say have a pile of ironing awaiting the next melt down. My housework always comes out better if I have an emotional outburst - not doubt a bit of anger thrown in as I clean.
I have no doubt that next weekend will be hard for my children as Father's Day arrives again even though they will be helping their own families celebrate. It is over 8 years since my own Dad passed away with prostate/lung cancer but that does not stop me feeling sad about it.
Right had best start thinking about dinner and get the bits and bobs I need out of the fridge ready for the oven - stuffed mushrooms tonight.
HI JULES ,glad you ok i havnt been to bad this week me and the kids are going to the river seven on Sunday , my husband wanted his ashes thrown in there it was one of the rivers he loved to fish. im sure there will be a few tears as well as laughter as we remanice.his favourite tipple was whiskey we will have a tot and remember the good times we had over the years.take care Syl x
I know there will be mixed emotions when you and the family carry out your husband's wishes at the River Severn this Sunday but think it is a beautiful choice he made. A couple of coincidences in what you write as my hubby loved to fish (sea and river/lake) and was also a lover of Whiskey. I have never been a fan of either but do keep a bottle of his favourite tipple in my new kitchen (small comfort to me) and share it with his best buddy when he and his wife visit. Good memories of times spent together. Hope the sun shines for you too. Take care Jules x
Hi jules, went to the seven as planned everything went well even the weather was lovely, we all had a tot of whiskey, we even went for a walk along the pathway under the famous iron bridge , after our walk we went in one of the pubs for sunday lunch. Hope my hubby was happy with what we did ,it was one of his last wishes to have his ashes scattered on the seven. my hubby also liked canal / lake fishing, he wasnt keen on sea fishing , im sure he will be fishing and having a tot of whiskey where ever he his i hope so regards Syl x
Hi Debbie how are you, not heard off you for a while hope your ok ,me and the kids went to the river Seven at the week end and scattered my hubbies ashes on the river it was what he wanted. I havnt been to bad this last couple of days ,i hope he was watching with asmile on his face as we fullfilled his wish ,i hope so. Take Care Syl x
What a lovely place to scatter your husbands ashes, I am glad you are feeling better. I too am ok at the moment (strangely I feel guilty for feeling ok). I did the 5K Race for Life on Sunday, finished in 40 mins ( in my defence I have have not been to the Gym or been running for about a year). Have been managing to keep busy so that has helped. I have not picked up Sam's ashes yet, another thing I feel guilty about, I have been to pick them up twice so far but could not stop crying so they said to just leave them until I have decided what I want to do with them, I do want them buried but haven't decided on church or Cemetary yet, I am planning to go to see the Vicar at the church where his parents are buried to discuss it with him. It's all so hard isn't it. Take care Debbie xxxx
So pleased all went well on Sunday and I think your husband would be very proud that you and the family were able to carry out his wishes. Good that the weather played ball too. The occasion sounded so peaceful and despite the emotions that it no doubt brought with it I am pleased you could celebrate his memory this way. Take care Jules xx
Just wanted to say congratulations on completing the Race for Life and a good time too. I did the one at Watford on the 12th with my daughter and grandson (and a pregnant friend) and though walked it (my knees do not appreciate running or jogging) managed a time just over the hour.
I am sure when you make that final journey with Sam's ashes you will have reached the right decision for you. My hubby left no 'last wishes' about anything so he was scattered under a beautiful conifer in the peaceful surroundings (not far from the fish pond) at our local crematorium. It is a truly relaxing place to sit with my memories from time to time.
