Syliva, I am so very sorry for your loss, I know how it feels, my husband passed away in October and I miss him so much, I too wish they could let us know they are ok. There are lots of people on here going through the same terrible time who will offer support. Sending love to you Debbie xxxxxx
Hi Debbie not heard off you in a while hope your ok ,been out with my son and daughter on different ocasions over the week end, it was lovely to get out and about for a while im well aware im alwaye coming home to a empty house. regards syl
Hi Syl, not been good for a few weeks now don't know whether its a stage or the nice weather but been very down, had my mum round today and got stuck into the garden, I just can't face going out with family or friends. Hope it passes soon. Glad you have been out and about. Take care thinking of you. Debbie xxxx
Sorry your feeling down its a awful feeling as if your never going to feel happy again, i watered my garden tonight my husband always did it ,its little things like that you realise how life has changed do you have kids Debbie? they can be a comfort when your feeling down . take care Syl x
Sorry your feeling down its a awful feeling as if your never going to feel happy again, i watered my garden tonight my husband always did it ,its little things like that you realise how life has changed do you have kids Debbie? they can be a comfort when your feeling down . take care Syl x
The early weeks and months after such a deep loss (for some years even) throw up many emotions and even the presence of family and friends can sometimes present their own problems. Our feelings are so personal and sometimes difficult to explain to others but the forum gave me a much needed outlet for the emotional rollercoaster I found myself on.
I am somewhat further along the journey as it is almost 17 months since I lost hubby though the emotions still come and go. Earlier today I had a message to say my son's fiancee was in labour (week overdue) with their first baby and I shed tears both in the happiness that is coming and the sadness that my hubby, who would have been so proud, is not here to share the moment in person. I am grabbing on to the thought that he is in all our hearts and that the new baby will have some of his genes as she goes on with life's journey.
Hi Debbie hope your feeling better to day its lovely to have close friends and a lovely neice your close to i dont have granchildren my sister has a grandaughter but i hardly see her. Regards syl x
Hi Jules , hope every think goes well with the baby its something to look forward to, im sure your hubby is looking down with a smile on his face i can understand your mixed feelings sad and happy at the same timebut im sure the baby will fetch joy into your life .i wish i had granchildren its not to late yet but time is passing take care Syl x
Thanks Syl, just returned from having my first cuddle. Darcey Megan was born at 1.40 today weighing 8lb 5oz and all the family are doing well. My first grand-daughter and she is beautiful but then I am biased!!
Hope you have had a relaxing and peaceful day. Take care. Jules x
How lovely glad every thing went well ,its a lovely name you will be kept busy now am going out with a friend later on only to a market we will have a coffee while were out it takes my mind off things for a while take care Syl x
Have had a couple of visits to the new family but now hoping they will have a little more peace to adjust to this new life. I think Darcey's maternal great grandmother is travelling from Somerset to visit today as well as a new aunt and uncle so they will stagger the visiting so that new Mum and baby still get some rest.
Hope you had a good visit to the market with your friend. I did find it helped to stay busy in the early months and chatting with friends and family even about everyday things gave some purpose to day to day activities. I don't think my house had ever seen so much housework done and then redone to fill some of the long hours (often quiet chores when sleep was evasive!)
It is 17 months today since my hubby died but does not always feel that length of time has passed. Looking back (not something I do too much) I know I am in a more accepting place these days but still miss him and the emotional rollercoaster continues, none more so than with the arrival of Darcey. Hubby would have been over the moon just as he was with our two grandsons but I know our son will tell her all about him as she grows up. For now we are all very happy to see a new life in the family who will, I know , be much loved.
Wishing you a peaceful and relaxing weekend.Take care Jules x
Hi Jules , on my own today had a cry this morning ,its good to keep busy it stops you thinking about things that could have been.people tell me not to think like that but i cant help it ,its hard to think a bout the future with out him as well so you cant win ,might take my self off to a garden centre later to get out for a bit take care x Sylvia
Glad to hear there is another garden centre lover posting. I have one about 2miles away which I walk to most free weekends and though I do not buy every time, I do find some peace in wandering amongst the flowers and during the first year of hubby's passing found it quite good therapy to be in the garden (sitting still for too long led to too much in depth thinking!!). It has the added bonus of a good little cafe for a pick me up cup of tea/coffee and good supplies of wild bird food (I have a few feeding stations and love to watch the birds or take a few photos).
Always good to let the emotion out I think, as bottling it up just makes things worse. Had a good few tears when Darcey was born both with the happiness she brings and the sadness that her paternal grandad will not have the pleasure of meeting her. He had better be watching over them all.
This morning I had a manicure and then did my half hour gym circuit before heading off to town to food shop. Have been back a little while now and been sitting for too long so am off for a late afternoon walk which should help my practise for upcoming 5K charity event.
Hi jules , i enjoyed the garden centre bought a few plants and had a coffee ,been a bit down for a few days , get fed up with my own company sometimes . Life isnt as happy has it used to be and its quite lonely now .keep up the good work with your running you must be fit .i coudnt run for toffee regards Syl .
