Hi Wendy

Sorry to hear about the lost of your daughter.  I lost my son on the 2nd January after he had been ill with Chronic Pancreatis for 20 months then three days before he died they said he had cancer of his pancrease, liver and bones.  They said they had not seen such a aggressive form of cancer.

I am devasted as he was 39 and left behind two children.  I cant get my head round it as I cant understand that after all the scans he had over the past 20 months they never picked it up.

I am investigating it as his doctor never picked up on it either.  I burst into tears at the the slightest thing. 

His expartner is not talking to me either and I miss my grand kids so much.

I would love to keep in touch with you as nobody seems to realy understand my grief.

Sally xxxx

Hi Sally I am so sorry to hear of your loss like your son my daughter had been going back and forth to the doctor who didn't take her seriously just put her symptoms down to stress until she went to a and e where they gave her an MRI scan and found a tumour they said it was unheard of in someone so  young I was and still am so angry that they took so long to diagnose her but don't feel that I can do anything about it I hope you manage to get some sense out of your doctor. I also find myself in tears at the slightest thing even 16 months down the line I spent 2 days in bed last week feeling so low and missing my daughter so much that it was hard to see a way forward. I haven't been able to listen to music since we lost her as it brings back so many memories I have to try and stay strong for my other two daughters but it is so hard some days I feel so sad all the time and really struggle to enjoy anything I must be horrible to be around I heard last week that my daughters husband has started seeing someone and although I knew it would happen it really got to me that he was able to carry on with his life even though I knew that she would have wanted him to I hope that you are able to rebuild your relationship with your sons expartner and are able to see your grandchildren they need you and you need them in your life to give you a reason to carry on take every day one at a time take any offers of help and look after yourself please keep in touch take care Wendy xxx 

Hi Sally I am so sorry to hear of your loss like your son my daughter had been going back and forth to the doctor who didn't take her seriously just put her symptoms down to stress until she went to a and e where they gave her an MRI scan and found a tumour they said it was unheard of in someone so  young I was and still am so angry that they took so long to diagnose her but don't feel that I can do anything about it I hope you manage to get some sense out of your doctor. I also find myself in tears at the slightest thing even 16 months down the line I spent 2 days in bed last week feeling so low and missing my daughter so much that it was hard to see a way forward. I haven't been able to listen to music since we lost her as it brings back so many memories I have to try and stay strong for my other two daughters but it is so hard some days I feel so sad all the time and really struggle to enjoy anything I must be horrible to be around I heard last week that my daughters husband has started seeing someone and although I knew it would happen it really got to me that he was able to carry on with his life even though I knew that she would have wanted him to I hope that you are able to rebuild your relationship with your sons expartner and are able to see your grandchildren they need you and you need them in your life to give you a reason to carry on take every day one at a time take any offers of help and look after yourself please keep in touch take care Wendy xxx