Hi CG

It's definitely a help to have new 'focus' to aim at. In a way my renovations are therapeutic (and also probably long overdue!!).  When we first married (1977) we had hoped to have a new kitchen and even had a quote but was way out of our league.  It's a little sad (and was an emotional decisiom) to know I can have one now but only because of my late hubby's pension but I think he would appreciate me investing in my, and possibly our childrens'future security, by keeping the property and updating it. I am comfortable here and my family and friends are important to have around me but I also enjoy my own space (may come from being an only child ha ha).

It feels good to still  be able to chat on the forum and know that others feel similar to you but the time scales of 'recovery' are such a personal journey.  If hubby's illness/death has taught me one thing it is that my own wellbeing/life is precious and I should enjoy today and not worry about tomorrow (too much!). Sending virtual hugs. Jules x 

Hi am new to all this but my husband passed 5 days before Christmas 2015. We knew it was coming, we had done for some years, palliative doesn't always mean weeks or days, and he cheated it once or twice but fought all the way. It's been a few weeks now and the highs and lows are surreal, sometimes I don't know where or who I am. How do you cope with all this? I have read so many lovely letters and thoughts and each one makes my heart ache more for every one. Does anyone out there have a magic wand or some words that might give some peace or answers to all the questions? Have cried me 'an ocean' and swept through the house like a dose of salts, tried so hard to do all those things they suggest, keep busy, but it still hurts!

Hi minchina

Sorry for the loss of your husband. I hope you will find it helpful to come here and share your feelings.

There are others here who have experienced the loss of loved ones and I hope you will find support from those who will understand how you are feeling now.

Best wishes to you,

Jane

Hi minchina

Sorry for the loss of your husband. I hope you will find it helpful to come here and share your feelings.

There are others here who have experienced the loss of loved ones and I hope you will find support from those who will understand how you are feeling now.

Best wishes to you,

Jane