Hello Tillytoos,

I just wanted to welcome you to our forum and I hope you will get to talk to many here who can truly relate to how you are feeling.

I am so sorry for your loss and would like to send you on behalf of Cancer Chat our sincere condolences. It must all still be very raw for you and as you say, it was all so fast.

Your story reminded me of that of one of our amazing users, Beaker83, whose husband died really young in his twenties due to bowel cancer. She has been doing a lot of fundraising in his memory and is a truly inspirational lady so she may be able to give you some advice on how to deal with it all, given she was in a similar place almost a couple of years ago. See her profile here and her past contributions on the forum. You can also read her thread A Year Has Passed and feel free to respond and share your own story with her.

I will now let others come and say hello. You have come to the right place for support during this difficult time.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Tilly,

Welcome to this friendly and supportive forum. I was so sorry to read your post. I have just lost my brother in law to prostate cancer. He seemed to be doing reasonably well apart from trouble eating. He went into a hospice for a couple of days respite care and two weeks later he passed away from aggresive cancer which had got to his throat.  He went downhill so fast. This Wednesday I also had the news my father in Canada has also passed away from prostate cancer and old age (he was 93).

I fully understand when you say you are struggling. Please come on here as often as you need to for ther are loads of wonderful people on here who know how you must be feeling.

Sending kind thoughts your way, Brian

Hi tilltoos

Just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss and hope you have the love and support of your family and friends. My wife was unexpectedly diagnosed with metastatic bowel cancer 4 months ago and am still and probably will never get my head around it has completely changed everything in our lives. Just cant bare it. Of all the things ive read, it does say it can happen at different speeds and that each case is completely unique. Im here if you need someone to listen if you need to talk or a rant. Take care x

Hi tillytoos and greeneyedman I'm sorry for your loss and what you are going through I lost my mother this year from bowel cancer hers was not quick and yes it does change everything in your life and some days things do seem unbearable  but we keep going as best we can taking one day at a time .i have no magic words off comfort I just wanted to let u both know I'm thinking off you  you are not alone although you may feel like you are x