Hi Amy ... I lost my Dad last week - he was only diagnosed 4 weeks ago. I cried so much in the time he spent in pain in hospital (not in front of him), I didn't want him to see me upset and remained strong for him and the rest of my family. I cried on the day he passed but I haven't cried since yet I was so close to my Dad ?? I don't get it and feel that people are questioning why I'm being so strong ? I know dad would never have wanted me upset but I feel the same as you - I do keep my feelings deep within me but surely I should be reacting differently ? I guess there is no right or wrong way to deal with loss - I'm confused by it all to be honest. I'm sure what you are feeling is perfectly normal for you too xx

Hi Amy ... I lost my Dad last week - he was only diagnosed 4 weeks ago. I cried so much in the time he spent in pain in hospital (not in front of him), I didn't want him to see me upset and remained strong for him and the rest of my family. I cried on the day he passed but I haven't cried since yet I was so close to my Dad ?? I don't get it and feel that people are questioning why I'm being so strong ? I know dad would never have wanted me upset but I feel the same as you - I do keep my feelings deep within me but surely I should be reacting differently ? I guess there is no right or wrong way to deal with loss - I'm confused by it all to be honest. I'm sure what you are feeling is perfectly normal for you too xx

Dis,

So sorry to hear about you losing your Dad.

You are absolutely right - everyone reacts differently to bereavement and quite often in surprising ways. People who are normally quite stoic dissolve into tears and normally dramatic types become stoic.

There is no right way or wrong way to react and no fixed times to go through the different stages of grief. 

In my case I was very stoic when my Mum died of cancer and I cried when I had my dog put down. I have no idea why I reacted in the opposite way to how I would have expected to, though I guess our minds only allow enough emotion to seep through as we can cope with at the time as a way to keep us sane.

Best wishes
Dave