Hi Trev,
I am sorry to see the reason you have joined this forum of lovely caring people.  I have found keeping busy has helped me but unfortunately you can't do that 24/7.
Do you have family and friends to support you?  Talking helps, talking about the good memories and being thankful for the time we have had with that special person.
Putting things down on paper like this site I know has helped me tremendously.
Sending you a big hug
Kathy x
 

hi kathy.  

its still earl days for me only had the funeral tuesday but i feel like iv been a lone for much longer i have family which i do spend a lot of time with but  the times alone are hard . my partner has been fighting ovarain cancer for five years but even when the her final day came it was such a shock and so had to cope 

trev x

Hi Trev,
I know exactly what you mean.  Even though you know what is coming nothing prepares you for it and the incredible void which is left.
Time alone grieving is unfortunately required as sometimes you put a brave face on in front of others and tears etc is a natural form of emotional release.
I thought my eyes would never stop being puffy but they have.
Kathy x
 

Hi Trev - wow yes terrible and gone through so much so relentlessly. No wonder you are wondering how you will get through this. All I Can say is that don't worry - nature itself will help and support you. Things turn out in the end. Its natural. 

That said - do take care mate. It's a big blow and I am truly sorry.  At least your partner is at her peace now.

Stay strong

Steven 

Hi Kathy 

im am finding it very hard at the moment when ever i see a photo or talk about her the teers start to flow i no it will take time and friends and family have been amazing but your wright i thought i was prepared for it but i had a shock coming .thank you 

Trev x

Hi Steven 

thank you for your kind words .

trev 

Hi Trev,
As time passes, and please remember everything is still so very raw for you, you may have longer periods between the tears.  One day you will realise you have gone a whole day without tears.  But it all takes time mate.
You are not alone Trev.  You have virtual friends here.
Hugs
Kathy x
 

Hi Trev,
As time passes, and please remember everything is still so very raw for you, you may have longer periods between the tears.  One day you will realise you have gone a whole day without tears.  But it all takes time mate.
You are not alone Trev.  You have virtual friends here.
Hugs
Kathy x