Hi Trev, I am sorry to see the reason you have joined this forum of lovely caring people. I have found keeping busy has helped me but unfortunately you can't do that 24/7. Do you have family and friends to support you? Talking helps, talking about the good memories and being thankful for the time we have had with that special person. Putting things down on paper like this site I know has helped me tremendously. Sending you a big hug Kathy x
its still earl days for me only had the funeral tuesday but i feel like iv been a lone for much longer i have family which i do spend a lot of time with but the times alone are hard . my partner has been fighting ovarain cancer for five years but even when the her final day came it was such a shock and so had to cope
Hi Trev, I know exactly what you mean. Even though you know what is coming nothing prepares you for it and the incredible void which is left. Time alone grieving is unfortunately required as sometimes you put a brave face on in front of others and tears etc is a natural form of emotional release. I thought my eyes would never stop being puffy but they have. Kathy x
Hi Trev - wow yes terrible and gone through so much so relentlessly. No wonder you are wondering how you will get through this. All I Can say is that don't worry - nature itself will help and support you. Things turn out in the end. Its natural.
That said - do take care mate. It's a big blow and I am truly sorry. At least your partner is at her peace now.
im am finding it very hard at the moment when ever i see a photo or talk about her the teers start to flow i no it will take time and friends and family have been amazing but your wright i thought i was prepared for it but i had a shock coming .thank you
Hi Trev, As time passes, and please remember everything is still so very raw for you, you may have longer periods between the tears. One day you will realise you have gone a whole day without tears. But it all takes time mate. You are not alone Trev. You have virtual friends here. Hugs Kathy x
Have just read your thread and my heart goes out to you. Kathy and Steve have given good responses.
No matter how long you are with someone you love, when they are 'lost' to you, even when you know the end is coming, that final goodbye is still a shock. The tears of grieve take their toll but as Kathy has said it is still very raw for you and early days to be coping alone. I lost hubby of 37 yrs (best friend for 42 ish) and knew for over three years that the cancer would take him away. It does not make it any easier to adjust to life alone and yes have shed tears (with others, alone and even talking/typing on here), it a natural release of our emotions. Take time to reflect, remember and be emotional when needed and when the time is right you will begin to move forward, step by step, day by day. Keeping busy helps and I have never had such a tidy house as I have in the past few months but when I sit and think I am beginning to draw on particualy happy memories as my personal coping mechanism and chatting on this forum has helped enormously as I know I am not the only one going through the pain of loss. Treat yourself with kindness. Regards Jules54
Hi I do try to keep busy spend a lot of time with family which makes it a bit easyer time alone is the worst plenty of walks with the dog . Night time is terrible couple of wines before bed don't help much as you say day at a time it still a struggle to look at photos just start the tears off again .trev.
Its still such early days following the loss of your loved one. They do say time is a healer and its just four months since my hubby died. We all handle grief differently and whilst I still shed tears occasionally, I now look at the photos round the house to remind me that the time we had together was precious and that hubby is now free from the discomfort (his word for pain) that the cancer brought into his life. Its not an easy journey but he is held in my heart always and no one can take that away. Wishing you a peaceful weekend.Jules
