Oh Kathy, my heart is going out to you for you are a little ahead of me in this 'journey as one'.  It always seems the 'first time' you do something as 'one' is the hardest (even writing the thank you notes after the donations received in hubby's memory was one of those tearful moments).  You do not need to be strong all the time (I am still learning that one!!) and the emotions will come when they need release (I do not cry easily but they fall 'at will' and sometimes at the most normal of things).

Take my virtual hand, give it a hard squeeze (it will do  us both the world of good) amd I am sending big hug across the electronic miles - you are in my thoughts as we cope with our grief. Love Jules x

Hi Kathy,

Sorry to hear you are having a sad day today but I have always said, Crying is just natures safety valve which enable us to release those pent up emotions that assail us from time to time, now matter how strong we may feel.

I know from losing my mother, it's sometimes simple little things that set us off. Thing like hearing one of her favorite songs or seeing her favorite flowers and there is no way we can protect ourselves from this happening, nor should we I feel for it's all a nutural part of grieving.

I really do feel for people like you and Jules who have lost a loved one who has been such a big part of your life. Take care Kathy and I am sending a big hug across the miles, Brian.

Hi Kathy .... just to say I am thinking of you as you attempt to cope with these reminders - I am sure there are generally several a day and its not surprising that you need a little 'safety valve' release some times. Your garden must be one of the tidiest in the area - and your dog the fittest - for all the times you keep yourself busy Kathy! Sending you love my friend x

Hi Kathy. -  how are you doing today? X

Hi Kathy,

Mrs B is quite well thank you but says trying to get me to behave is almost impossible and a full time job. This after I bought her a cushion with a snowy owl on it yesterday. I had to take my car in for repairs and bought her four things but nothing for myself. My nut shop was closed as they are moving to another shop just round the corner. I told her all she has to do is offer to bake me some cheese straws and I will have to behave!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Glad you are feeling a bit better today Kathy. It is often the case that we can talk to our forum buddies but find it's not so easy with friends and family. Take care and no doubt will talk again soon, Brian.

Hi Kathy,

Havent spoken for a while so just thought I would let you know Mrs B has blackmailed me into sending for a large bunch of Carnations fo her for Valentines day by telling me if I did she would bake me some heart shaped CHEESE BICUITS. Well, you know how much I love them so I had no option but to obey. They are really tasty, not that I'm trying to make your mouth water, you understand for I wouldnt dream of teasing.

I hope you are keeping well and wish you a great weekend. Best wishes, Brian.

kathy x

Hi Brian, have been off line for a few days and had grandson for last 36 hrs which was great fun.  The cheese bickies sound great mmmmm.  Just turned the cooler off in prep for bed. It was 41 tdy and down to 28 overnight.  I just laugh at the bellyachers as they will be bellyaching again when winter hits.

The littlies had great fun playing with buckets of water, plastic cups and water balloons.  The simple things in life.... 

Take care and best wishes to Mrs B.

Kathy x

Hi Kathy

Just wanted to drop by your own thread to wish you a lovely family get-together.  Having read on another thread that your family's flight was delayed do hope they 'connected' okay and you are now all together.  Can just imagine the bubbling excitement and chattering going on.   Shall look forward to hearing all the wedding/family updates in due time but in the meantime just have wonderful fun.  Sounds like  you may not need the air-con but will make it less of a 'weather shock' to your visitors - we just about reached 17 last couple of days and it really  brought the garden to life (lots of bulbs now colourful and the garden birds very busy feeding,mating and nesting - plenty to see out of the window!

Take care and enjoy your family event. Looks like your Mum will enjoy 2 mother's days (if I remember its a different date over in Aus (its the 15th March here so my Mum gets two visits this week ha ha).

Sending hugs  Jules xx

Morning Jules,
Just getting ready to pack for trip away.  I am having such fun with family, they got here ok and the years have just fallen off me.  They are all quite bonkers which is great.  Mum is amazingly well and not having the aches and pains she has at home probably due to the warmth.  Sis is doing ok following healthy eating for her liver issues which doc thinks it related to her diabetes.  Her walking issues are not as bad...once again the heat will be helping.
Still working on speech but not stressing.  Discovered as per protocol I will need to dance with brides father after the young ones take to the floor....what happens if I burst into the highland fling??  Wonder if he can do the "bump" or head banging???  No I must behave myself... 
Ok dear friend I will sign off and get moving.
Big hugs xx
 

Hi Kathy

Dont suppose you will be on here whilst you have the celebrations going on but was so pleased to read how good your mother was after the long haul trip - amazing women runs in the family I think.  Am sure you are right that the warmer weather will be helping with all the aches and pains and with the pleasure of a family reunion much nicer things to do and talk about than ailments.  Your speech will be just fine, your outfit will suit you and the 'cheesey wedding cake' a triumph (though they may find you under a table hoarding it!!). Enjoy the moment and look forward to hearing all about it in due course. Hugs returned.Jules xx