Welcome to Cancer Chat Aliceh98 although I'm so sorry to hear you lost your mum to secondary breast cancer 6 months ago. You have my heartfelt condolences for your loss.

I'm glad you've reached out to us for support Aliceh98 as you'll find so many of our members will know how painful and absolutely heart-breaking it can be to lose a parent they had such a close and special bond with, so you are not alone, and and I'm sure you will receive a lot of support and advice from the community soon.

I hope this information we have about coping with grief will help you on those difficult days, but if you ever find yourself feeling overwhelmed or really struggling with how you are feeling then don't hesitate to reach out to your GP or bereavement charities such as Cruse Bereavement Care and the National Bereavement Service for further support and advice. 

I know it won't seem like it right now, but there will be better days ahead.

In the meantime, keep being kind to yourself Aliceh98 and remember that we will always be here for you.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hey Alice, I’m so sorry you lost your mum. I very much understand as I’ve lost my mum to breast cancer too. Like you I am an only child, I’m 25 and my dad isn’t in the picture. I lost my mum to can er 6 years ago, it’s something that stays with you, but she would want you to smile without her. I know it’s very hard but you’ve got this! Remember you’re not alone in this ️ ! - Amy 

Hi Alice, Firstly, I’m so sorry to hear about your mum and your best friend.

I completely understand the rollercoaster of these new emotions as I also lost my mum in November last year quite suddenly after multiple years of fighting. It’s rubbish- and that’s putting it nicely!!!!

I’m not the most open on these sort of websites and I have only signed up to reply to your post as I’m also a similar age (24) and I know that feeling of losing someone so important.

So, if you want to chat or keep in touch please reach out x

Hi Amy, thank you so much for your kind response. I’ve sent you a private message on here, but please don’t feel obliged to reply x

Hey, thank you so much for taking the time to make an account just to reply to my thread - it really has helped me to feel less alone. Although, I’m heartbroken to hear that you’ve had to go through the same pain and at an even younger age than me. 

Likewise, if you would ever like to chat about anything you’re feeling then please do. There’s a private message feature on here, so I will send you a request x

Hey Alice, that’s very kind! I’m happy that I made you feel less alone ️  I just responded to your private message too! Thank you for sending me one x

Hello, thank you for responding and I’m so so sorry to hear that you’ve just lost your beautiful Mumma too. I know it must be extremely raw for you right now, so please don’t feel you need to rush to reply.

I can imagine losing a parent at any age is hard, but 35 is still way too young. It isn’t fair at all and my heart goes out to you as well. 

I feel and relate to every word that you’ve said. It is unfathomably difficult to carry on without them, but there is no alternative and they will ultimately want us to keep finding the little joys in each day, and keep finding reasons to smile even without them. It’s great that you talk to her everyday - I like to think they can hear us.

I was apprehensive about posting on this forum but I’m so pleased I did. I didn’t realise how cathartic it would be to chat with others who just understand. I would also like you to know you can message me anytime you nend x Sorry again for your loss

Thank you for being understanding and telling me not to rush to reply. I've found it so tough this past week especially and seem to have no motivation for anything =/

I agree with everything you've said and that they would want us to find joy in life. 

I hope you're as okay as can be anyway and likewise, please feel free to message me any time :) I know how difficult this is. Sending hugs x