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Missing my mum everyday after her death age 68 to bone, liver and stomach cancer

Sweetwoman41
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Hi all

My mum passed away recently from the disease which spread and wasn't cured despite the best efforts of the medical team at hospital. My dad said she felt tired over easter so she went to rest and thought nothing too serious going on however as the weeks progressed she lost her appetite, became weaker and fell downstairs in my parents house. 4 days on from the funeral each day gets a bit easier but I still have moments like hearing her favourite motown music on the radio, hearing aeroplanes flying overhead as she had to cancel a holiday abroad due to the illness, wanting to hug her but I can't do any. I just have to try and stay strong and remember life is meant to be enjoyed but it is not always easy.

Does anyone else feel these emotions after losing a loved one?

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    Hi Sweetwoman41

    I'm sorry to read about your mum and the struggles and emotions you are having since her sad passing.

    I can assure you the feelings you are having are a normal part of losing a loved one.  Certain things still trigger me and my mum passed in 2011, a certain song, a smell of my mums perfume, a type of flower she loved, however instead of making me cry as I remember her passing, these things now make me smile as I remember her living.

    Even after all these years I would give anything for a hug from my mum, there are just some things in life that can't be replaced.  However knowing that I got to spend so much time with her, laughing, dancing, crying, even being told off as a kid brings me comfort.

    I can only imagine how hard it was finding out about her illness when you did, my mums battles went on for over a year, my Dads 7 weeks. I could list pros and cons for having a long or short time to get used it, however i find it doesn't help.  Just remember all the things that make you smile about your mum. 

    There is no right or wrong way to deal with your grief and it will change over time, plus it will differ from others in the family. 

    Stay strong and take care

    Kym x

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    Hi Sweetwoman41

    I'm sorry to read about your mum and the struggles and emotions you are having since her sad passing.

    I can assure you the feelings you are having are a normal part of losing a loved one.  Certain things still trigger me and my mum passed in 2011, a certain song, a smell of my mums perfume, a type of flower she loved, however instead of making me cry as I remember her passing, these things now make me smile as I remember her living.

    Even after all these years I would give anything for a hug from my mum, there are just some things in life that can't be replaced.  However knowing that I got to spend so much time with her, laughing, dancing, crying, even being told off as a kid brings me comfort.

    I can only imagine how hard it was finding out about her illness when you did, my mums battles went on for over a year, my Dads 7 weeks. I could list pros and cons for having a long or short time to get used it, however i find it doesn't help.  Just remember all the things that make you smile about your mum. 

    There is no right or wrong way to deal with your grief and it will change over time, plus it will differ from others in the family. 

    Stay strong and take care

    Kym x

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