Hi Pj123,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your husband.

I know that this can be difficult to cope with, especially at this time of year. Grief is a strange phenomea. You gradually come to terms with it in your own time. Have you spoken to a counsellor or joined any bereavement support groups? You may find these helpful in starting to move forward. Maggies Cancer Support centres have counsellors to talk to, as does Cruise. Please contact one of these organisations, as they should also be able to signpost you to local self-help groups too. 

Your husband left you at a very young age and I am sure that you never expected him to go so soon. Four months is not a long time for you to be able to cope with this. Please allow yourself all the time you need. 

Please keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on. We are always here to support you along the way.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi I lost my beloved husband to penile cancer on 23rd November, I'm really struggling as we only found out on 22nd October, as the hospital kept sending him home and not doing anything until it was too late, it's been nearly 6 weeks now and I miss him so much, I just want him back, we were together for 22 years 

Hi,Poppet1973 

6 weeks isn’t long at all when you have spent what’s a life time together, I was with my husband for 32 years married for 25 almost 26 , I get your anger and frustration over the doctors, my husband was meant to have a second brain surgery in December 23 but it was cancelled due to the doctors strike and then it became inoperable. You’re not alone, I want my husband back too, I found Christmas and new year really hard. As your name has 1973 in I guess that’s your birth year, that’s mine too, would be nice to chat, my grief tends to come in waves of uncontrollable tears, today I feel ok ,,I hope you’re doing okay well the best you can be at least, I’m looking forward to get back to work so I have something to keep my mind off everything 

Thank you, at the moment I'm not too good, I gave up work just before Xmas as I wanted some time to sort my head out