Hi Pj123,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your husband.

I know that this can be difficult to cope with, especially at this time of year. Grief is a strange phenomea. You gradually come to terms with it in your own time. Have you spoken to a counsellor or joined any bereavement support groups? You may find these helpful in starting to move forward. Maggies Cancer Support centres have counsellors to talk to, as does Cruise. Please contact one of these organisations, as they should also be able to signpost you to local self-help groups too. 

Your husband left you at a very young age and I am sure that you never expected him to go so soon. Four months is not a long time for you to be able to cope with this. Please allow yourself all the time you need. 

Please keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on. We are always here to support you along the way.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx