I found that with people, even family members - they're not very good at handling someone else's grieving, they can say sorry for your loss but apart from that, they feel helpless. The best advice I got from here actually is to forgive people if and when they make their faux paxes during your grieving, they don't mean it, they can't help and they're usually very unqualified to deal with someone else's pain and feelings. 

Grieving is a process, your friends who talk about their parents will one day go through it themselves and it will be just as hard for them when the people who they relied on are not there anymore, very few people escape the pain of loss and grieving. 

The two ways I dealt with it - or it made it easier is that a) I am not all that long for here myself - I will be gone sooner than I think. and b) that in my case, my mum, had a good life, did the things she wanted to do and she knew I loved her and that she is still with me. I have written a post at length about this if you want to go through my posting history but though she isn't here in my physical world, she is with me mentally, spiritually, intellectually and in every other way, when I want advice, I can hear her voice advising me - many times actually and of course when I see myself in the mirror then there she is, I look a lot like her. 

I don't know if any of this helps but I hope it does and I wish you strength in this time. Take care.

I found that with people, even family members - they're not very good at handling someone else's grieving, they can say sorry for your loss but apart from that, they feel helpless. The best advice I got from here actually is to forgive people if and when they make their faux paxes during your grieving, they don't mean it, they can't help and they're usually very unqualified to deal with someone else's pain and feelings. 

Grieving is a process, your friends who talk about their parents will one day go through it themselves and it will be just as hard for them when the people who they relied on are not there anymore, very few people escape the pain of loss and grieving. 

The two ways I dealt with it - or it made it easier is that a) I am not all that long for here myself - I will be gone sooner than I think. and b) that in my case, my mum, had a good life, did the things she wanted to do and she knew I loved her and that she is still with me. I have written a post at length about this if you want to go through my posting history but though she isn't here in my physical world, she is with me mentally, spiritually, intellectually and in every other way, when I want advice, I can hear her voice advising me - many times actually and of course when I see myself in the mirror then there she is, I look a lot like her. 

I don't know if any of this helps but I hope it does and I wish you strength in this time. Take care.