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Haunted by the images of my mum taking her last breath. I have tried to be strong but I'm struggling

Barneythedog
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After a brave 2 and a half year battle with cancer I lost my wonderful mum in February this year.

I saw her take her last breath in hospital and can't stop seeing it. It took the doctor 7 hours to arrive and I was left alone with her the whole time in a hospital room.

I've tried to keep busy but have nightmares almost every night. I've spoken to my gp but he was very unhelpful.

I'm on the waiting list for help but have been told it could be months before I can speak to someone 

I'm on my own and have tried to be strong but I'm struggling 

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  • Hi Barneythedog,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your mum and that you are feeling some trauma from the experience - I'm sure this must be an awful lot to deal with.

    I'm also sorry to hear that the GP was unhelpful. I'm not sure if you've explored any other avenues yet, but it may be worth looking at Cruse. They have a lot of helpful resources and also a helpline, as well as information about other available local support.

    I also hope that this forum can be of some support to you. We are always here whenever you need it, and it's a safe space to write things down and reach out to others.

    I'm sure there will be others here who have experienced or who are experiencing something similar, so hopefully you'll get some more replies soon. You can also browse or search the forum (using the bar at the top of the page) for other relevant discussions, if you'd like to.

    Keeping busy can be helpful, as you say. Speaking to others is also important, so hopefully you'll have an opportunity to do this soon. Do try to take care of yourself as much as possible, and focus on taking time to do things you enjoy as well. And as I say, we're always here if you need it.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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  • Hi Barneythedog,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your mum and that you are feeling some trauma from the experience - I'm sure this must be an awful lot to deal with.

    I'm also sorry to hear that the GP was unhelpful. I'm not sure if you've explored any other avenues yet, but it may be worth looking at Cruse. They have a lot of helpful resources and also a helpline, as well as information about other available local support.

    I also hope that this forum can be of some support to you. We are always here whenever you need it, and it's a safe space to write things down and reach out to others.

    I'm sure there will be others here who have experienced or who are experiencing something similar, so hopefully you'll get some more replies soon. You can also browse or search the forum (using the bar at the top of the page) for other relevant discussions, if you'd like to.

    Keeping busy can be helpful, as you say. Speaking to others is also important, so hopefully you'll have an opportunity to do this soon. Do try to take care of yourself as much as possible, and focus on taking time to do things you enjoy as well. And as I say, we're always here if you need it.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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