Hello Shopaholic.  First of all, my condolences on the loss of your Mother.  What you are feeling is a very normal part of the grieving process.  I was 33 when my Mum died of cancer, and she was 70.  Like you, my Mum's death threw me in to a tailspin.  The only thing I can tell you with any certainty is that you WILL get through this.  That doesn't mean to say that you will get over it.......I don't believe that we ever truly 'get over' losing the people we love, I think that somehow, we simply learn to live with it.  The anger you are feeling is something that all bereaved people go through at some point.  We feel that it is so unfair that the person we loved so much has been taken from us, and as you say, even though your Mother was 88, it simply wasn't her time to go.  I always think that it doesn't matter how old the person is who has died, because for the people that are left behind, it is still absolutely devastating.  There is never a 'right' age to die.  We all cope in different ways.  For me personally, I threw myself in to my work.  For some people, grief counselling helps them enormously.  My cousin had grief counselling when her Father died, and she told me that it helped her a great deal.  I still miss my Mum, even though she has been gone for many years now, but it is no longer painful and raw.  Losing our Mothers is one of the biggest losses we will ever face in life, and it is so hard, but please believe me when I tell you that eventually, your overwhelming grief will ease, and although you will always miss your Mum, you will find that you are able to process it and return to some semblance of normality.  Once again, I am so sorry for your loss, take care, xx

Hello Shopaholic.  First of all, my condolences on the loss of your Mother.  What you are feeling is a very normal part of the grieving process.  I was 33 when my Mum died of cancer, and she was 70.  Like you, my Mum's death threw me in to a tailspin.  The only thing I can tell you with any certainty is that you WILL get through this.  That doesn't mean to say that you will get over it.......I don't believe that we ever truly 'get over' losing the people we love, I think that somehow, we simply learn to live with it.  The anger you are feeling is something that all bereaved people go through at some point.  We feel that it is so unfair that the person we loved so much has been taken from us, and as you say, even though your Mother was 88, it simply wasn't her time to go.  I always think that it doesn't matter how old the person is who has died, because for the people that are left behind, it is still absolutely devastating.  There is never a 'right' age to die.  We all cope in different ways.  For me personally, I threw myself in to my work.  For some people, grief counselling helps them enormously.  My cousin had grief counselling when her Father died, and she told me that it helped her a great deal.  I still miss my Mum, even though she has been gone for many years now, but it is no longer painful and raw.  Losing our Mothers is one of the biggest losses we will ever face in life, and it is so hard, but please believe me when I tell you that eventually, your overwhelming grief will ease, and although you will always miss your Mum, you will find that you are able to process it and return to some semblance of normality.  Once again, I am so sorry for your loss, take care, xx