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I miss my mum so much

Aimee_111
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Not really sure where to start as I have never written on here before but here goes. 
My mum passed away on the 8th may 2023 in a hospice with all her immediate family around, it was like she waited for us all to be there. She battled for two and a half half years with primary lung cancer and secondary in the brain, she fought so hard and never complained, she was a true fighter.

I'm 35 years old and pregnant with my second child my first being 14 years old, and I have no idea how to cope with losing my mum, she was my best friend and we did everything together. I've had a month off work and I still feel completely numb, one minute it feels like I'm okay the next it just hits me like omg my mums not here anymore and just burst into tears. 
 

Has anyone been through similar to me, if so how do you even carry on with life when you are grieving so much, the pain is the worst pain in the world. 
Any help would be greatly appreciated, 

thank you xx

 

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    Hi,

    I lost my mum last year, she was 57. I was 36. 

    similarly she was also my best friend, my rock, the only person in the world I trusted. 

    Everyone always says it, but it’s true, that you eventually learn to live with the loss. You don’t ever get over it, but you come to terms with it. The grief still comes in waves though, the loss is too big for your brain to process so it allows it in one piece at a time. Or that’s what I’ve found anyway.

    In the early days all I did was relive her last days, which was distressing but as time has gone on I do now remember more of the happier memories.

    Im very sorry for your loss. 

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    That’s so true, I never thought of it like that but the grief probably is too overwhelming to process all at once, Thankyou for your advice 

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