Hello mp4691, 

First of all, I wanted to send my sincere condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. We're thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. What you went through was truly traumatic and it's normal that you are reliving all this and that you can't get those images out of your mind. It's all still so raw as it all just happened early this morning. You must be feeling exhausted too. 

You did well to call Samaritans and if you feel you want to talk to them again don't hesitate to reach out to them at any time of day or night on 116 123. I hope you manage to get a little bit of rest tonight and that you have the support of those you love around you. As NG91 said, focusing on your precious little ones  who are only 3 and 1 and very much need their mummy will help you get through every day, taking one day at a time. I imagine you are very busy with such young children and your strategy of trying to think of something else is a good one even though it is difficult for you at the moment to think of anything else. 

I thought I would also share with you our page on Coping with Grief which will help you understand the intensity of what you are currently experiencing and some of the emotions you might feel. This is something so many of our members will be able to relate to and I hope that you will get to talk to others here who have been in your position before and that they will share their story and tell you how they managed to get through each day. 

Keep strong mp4691 I know it's really hard at the moment but I wanted you to know that we are here. You have been through so much in the last few hours that it must be difficult not to feel overwhelmed with sadness. If you feel really low still on Monday, make sure you talk to your GP about it - I am sure they will have some good suggestions for you to help you get through the coming days. 

We're thinking of you during this difficult time - it does help to put your thoughts down on here so I wanted you know that we are here to listen and that so many members of our community will understand what you are going through at the moment. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello mp4691, 

First of all, I wanted to send my sincere condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. We're thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. What you went through was truly traumatic and it's normal that you are reliving all this and that you can't get those images out of your mind. It's all still so raw as it all just happened early this morning. You must be feeling exhausted too. 

You did well to call Samaritans and if you feel you want to talk to them again don't hesitate to reach out to them at any time of day or night on 116 123. I hope you manage to get a little bit of rest tonight and that you have the support of those you love around you. As NG91 said, focusing on your precious little ones  who are only 3 and 1 and very much need their mummy will help you get through every day, taking one day at a time. I imagine you are very busy with such young children and your strategy of trying to think of something else is a good one even though it is difficult for you at the moment to think of anything else. 

I thought I would also share with you our page on Coping with Grief which will help you understand the intensity of what you are currently experiencing and some of the emotions you might feel. This is something so many of our members will be able to relate to and I hope that you will get to talk to others here who have been in your position before and that they will share their story and tell you how they managed to get through each day. 

Keep strong mp4691 I know it's really hard at the moment but I wanted you to know that we are here. You have been through so much in the last few hours that it must be difficult not to feel overwhelmed with sadness. If you feel really low still on Monday, make sure you talk to your GP about it - I am sure they will have some good suggestions for you to help you get through the coming days. 

We're thinking of you during this difficult time - it does help to put your thoughts down on here so I wanted you know that we are here to listen and that so many members of our community will understand what you are going through at the moment. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator