Lost my amazing mum to single cell lung cancer yesterday

I lost my amazing mum who was 63 yesterday, I feel so numb and wonder if this feeling will every go away. All she wanted to do was enjoy her retirement with my dad which hurts so much.

She hard vertigo for 3 weeks which was diagnosed as vestibular neuritis. She suffered with extreme dizziness and nausea in the back of our minds we were hoping and praying it wasn't anything sinister.  On Monday her symptoms had increased and an ambulance was called. A tumour was found on her cerebellum which was large. By Tuesday we knew she had an operation to remove hopefully all of tumour. On Wednesday she was going to have surgery. But in the morning she became drowsy. They had ordered CT scans and were waiting for this before starting operation. My dad got a call to say that we had to come in quick. She had a tumour on her lung that had spread to her liver. The brain mets were secondary cancers. They couldn't operate and she died in the afternoon. It was so quick we are inconsolable. 

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  • I am so very sorry your mum died at a time when she should have been enjoying her life. 

    The only thing that helps is time, how much time no one can tell you. My sons fiancee died on the 24th of October aged just 36, so instead of planning their wedding we planned her funeral. 

    Son was in denial right till she passed away and I don't think he you or anyone ever truly gets over the loss of someone they truly love. 

    What they do is survive it and get through it with happy memories coming to mind more abd more often than the pain of the loss.

    I have been sobbing today when I saw an advert for a deal at their favourite Italian restaurant that I would have bought them for Christmas.  Son had to go alone as his fiancee was too ill and I cried then at him being alone. 

    Lean on your family, talk about your lovely mum often, just take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself. 

    No right or wrong way to grieve. 

    As a mum worried sick about her son, I promise you that your mum would want nothing but for you to have a good happy life.  Big hugs to you and love xxx

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  • I am so very sorry your mum died at a time when she should have been enjoying her life. 

    The only thing that helps is time, how much time no one can tell you. My sons fiancee died on the 24th of October aged just 36, so instead of planning their wedding we planned her funeral. 

    Son was in denial right till she passed away and I don't think he you or anyone ever truly gets over the loss of someone they truly love. 

    What they do is survive it and get through it with happy memories coming to mind more abd more often than the pain of the loss.

    I have been sobbing today when I saw an advert for a deal at their favourite Italian restaurant that I would have bought them for Christmas.  Son had to go alone as his fiancee was too ill and I cried then at him being alone. 

    Lean on your family, talk about your lovely mum often, just take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself. 

    No right or wrong way to grieve. 

    As a mum worried sick about her son, I promise you that your mum would want nothing but for you to have a good happy life.  Big hugs to you and love xxx

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