Lost my amazing mum to single cell lung cancer yesterday

I lost my amazing mum who was 63 yesterday, I feel so numb and wonder if this feeling will every go away. All she wanted to do was enjoy her retirement with my dad which hurts so much.

She hard vertigo for 3 weeks which was diagnosed as vestibular neuritis. She suffered with extreme dizziness and nausea in the back of our minds we were hoping and praying it wasn't anything sinister.  On Monday her symptoms had increased and an ambulance was called. A tumour was found on her cerebellum which was large. By Tuesday we knew she had an operation to remove hopefully all of tumour. On Wednesday she was going to have surgery. But in the morning she became drowsy. They had ordered CT scans and were waiting for this before starting operation. My dad got a call to say that we had to come in quick. She had a tumour on her lung that had spread to her liver. The brain mets were secondary cancers. They couldn't operate and she died in the afternoon. It was so quick we are inconsolable. 

Parents Reply
  • Hi I'm so sorry for loss and feel you pain. I lost my mum on the 21st oct she was diagnosed with leukaemia in April and had a bone marrow transplant in august they said that it worked however I took her to hospital and she deteriorated so quickly I feel broken and don't know what I'm going to do without her she was only 65 and meant the world to me I feel so angry with the world 

Children
  • The pain is unbearable I can relate to that feeling of anger. She had just retired and was enjoying the simple things in life walks with my dad etc. So cruel I will never get over how quick this was. In September she was on holiday in Spain no symptoms 3 days of real concerning symptoms and she was gone I can make no sense of it. I know the pain doesn't go away but how do you cope with it?

  • I don't think we'll ever get over the loss or the pain we're feeling. I completely understand how you feel. my mum didn't get to her retirement, it's really making me question what life's all anout, she was the sweetest lady and so kind. I feel, and I bet you do to that everyone is getting on with their lives when ours has stopped. Im an only child organising the funeral as been so hard it just doesn't seem real I'm sending you lots of love you're not on your own x 

  • I am thinking all those thoughts, I get angry if I see people doing normal things. This time of year makes it's hard I have Christmas presents for her on the couch I can't bear to look at them. The funeral is not to the 24th November the day after my sister's birthday. She was a popular lady in many circles of friends there will be so many people there, I don't know how I will get through the day. I worry for my dad he is broken x

  • It hurts me when people say I can't imagine what your going through why do I have to be that person that has to go through it and why was it done in that way. I don't think I will ever get over it. Sorry for two messages my thoughts and feelings tend to hurt the most early morning and late at night.