Hi, I lost my mum 3 months ago. It's such a difficult time, I think about her constantly, it's like I'm stuck, I dont know how to move forward. I find I feel a bit better when I'm busy but then its like I am avoiding my emotions. I'm starting some counselling in the next few weeks. My friends have been great but they have their own lifes and problems so lately I've been keeping my feelings to myself. At the moment I'm just try to take life one day at a time. I cant really believe she has gone, I dont know if I will ever get over her passing

Hi, I lost my mum 3 months ago. It's such a difficult time, I think about her constantly, it's like I'm stuck, I dont know how to move forward. I find I feel a bit better when I'm busy but then its like I am avoiding my emotions. I'm starting some counselling in the next few weeks. My friends have been great but they have their own lifes and problems so lately I've been keeping my feelings to myself. At the moment I'm just try to take life one day at a time. I cant really believe she has gone, I dont know if I will ever get over her passing

Hi Louise,

Deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, sending you big hugs for me when mum first passed I was thinking how will I manage in life without her and getting myself incredibly overwhelmed thinking about the future and would make me very upset, I know it's far easier said than done but just focus on making it through the day, only look a day or so ahead.

if you are able to, find a small routine each day, nothing crazy even if it's at 10am you'll have a coffee or at 2pm you'll sit outside your back garden for 20 mins and get some fresh air. Very small manageable things make us feel slightly more in control of our days. I understand your friends have their lives but they are also your friends, if you need to talk reach out to them or write a message you'd send them in your notes, sometimes writing it down helps us process our thoughts. 
 

Not long after mum died my mind was doing 72826mph so I started to write what I was thinking in a notebook, didn't do it as often as I would have liked but when I did write I did feel more mental clarity. 
 

Reach out anytime if you need to unload x

Thanks for that, I'm going to try implementing little routines into my day . I'm also arranging meet ups with friends. I will try the journal writing, I can see how it might help. I am trying to take it a day at a time. I find when I think ahead, the thought of mum not being there is quite overwhelming! So trying to stick to just one day at a time. Thanks for the advice Hope your doing ok yourself, it's not easy xxx

Or even if you've been putting off tasks in your house like sorting your sock drawer or dusting the blinds, see if you can do one of those a few times a week... when you need to take your mind of something they become more appealing ! Plus gives you a small sense of accomplishment. 
 

 When I read my notebook back I find crazy to see how far I've come, it's very very very tough but you will get there. Glad you've got some things to look forward to with your friends. Thank you xxxx