Hello Lobkevde

Im so sorry for your loss of your lovely Mum. She sounds like a wonderful woman and what an amazing thing her writing the blog. I'm sure it'll be such a help to others going through breast cancer. 
 

I lost my Mum to bladder cancer in December so I'm a bit further down the line of grief although to be honest sometimes it feels that no time at all has passed. It can be incredibly overwhelming.  
 

I've found that getting out for a walk everyday has been helpful. Also speaking to trusted close friends. I've listened a lot to the Griefcast podcast which is all about grief and loss and has definitely helped me feel less alone as I don't have any friends who have lost a parent so it can be hard to find people to relate to. I also write in a wee journal sometimes just whatever comes in to my head - memories of my Mum, how I've been feeling. Just to get it out of my head and down on paper can be quite helpful. 
 

I've found bereavement counselling has been massively helpful. The hospice my Mum was in offered this but I know that the Maggies centre and other charities can offer sessions if you have one of those anywhere near you. It can be quite daunting but talking can be so helpful to getting all those things you might not want to say to friends or family out. 
Cruse bereavement website can also be helpful as well, I found this idea quite comforting - 
www.cruse.org.uk/.../ that you don't have to 'get over' your loss but in time life will grow around it. 

Just try and be kind to yourself, and remember that your feelings and emotions are all normal. Sometimes you might feel sad, angry, panicked, overwhelmed and then at times you might laugh and smile! Grief I've found isn't linear. It can go back and forth, up and down and at times you can feel like your going crazy but you do get more used to those feelings as time goes on. 7 months on and I can recognise more when I'm feeling a certain way and need some space or if I need to go and have a good cry. Just give yourself time and space as you process your loss. 

Apologies this has turned into quite a long message. I hope it helps and happy to message anytime. 

Look after yourself 

Kat x

Take care 
 

Hello Lobkevde

Im so sorry for your loss of your lovely Mum. She sounds like a wonderful woman and what an amazing thing her writing the blog. I'm sure it'll be such a help to others going through breast cancer. 
 

I lost my Mum to bladder cancer in December so I'm a bit further down the line of grief although to be honest sometimes it feels that no time at all has passed. It can be incredibly overwhelming.  
 

I've found that getting out for a walk everyday has been helpful. Also speaking to trusted close friends. I've listened a lot to the Griefcast podcast which is all about grief and loss and has definitely helped me feel less alone as I don't have any friends who have lost a parent so it can be hard to find people to relate to. I also write in a wee journal sometimes just whatever comes in to my head - memories of my Mum, how I've been feeling. Just to get it out of my head and down on paper can be quite helpful. 
 

I've found bereavement counselling has been massively helpful. The hospice my Mum was in offered this but I know that the Maggies centre and other charities can offer sessions if you have one of those anywhere near you. It can be quite daunting but talking can be so helpful to getting all those things you might not want to say to friends or family out. 
Cruse bereavement website can also be helpful as well, I found this idea quite comforting - 
www.cruse.org.uk/.../ that you don't have to 'get over' your loss but in time life will grow around it. 

Just try and be kind to yourself, and remember that your feelings and emotions are all normal. Sometimes you might feel sad, angry, panicked, overwhelmed and then at times you might laugh and smile! Grief I've found isn't linear. It can go back and forth, up and down and at times you can feel like your going crazy but you do get more used to those feelings as time goes on. 7 months on and I can recognise more when I'm feeling a certain way and need some space or if I need to go and have a good cry. Just give yourself time and space as you process your loss. 

Apologies this has turned into quite a long message. I hope it helps and happy to message anytime. 

Look after yourself 

Kat x

Take care 
 

Thanks so much for taking the time to respond to my message, it means a lot. I'm so sorry to hear about your mum too and I'm glad to hear that you have found some sources for coping. It has only been 2 days but going on a walk in the past 2 days has definitely been helpful and I am too planning to get counselling. I definitely feel I'm in denial at the moment as it is so raw, but hopefully I can start working through my grief. Thanks again for your message and sending you all my love