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How to deal with traumatic death of my dad

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My dad was diagnosed in November 21 with stage 3 lung cancer, he sadly lost his fight after a traumatic death on May 9th, I can't get the images out of my head after having to perform CPR, it was like something out a horror movie, we think the clots on lung he developed burst or the tumor itself and now I struggle to sleep seeing these images

I know its only been almost 2 months but not sure if I should be speaking to someone I feel as if I can't grieve or let go due to what has happened, I was just wondering if anyone has experienced something similar

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    As Violet says, I'm very sorry you've had to go through this trauma and my condolences on your loss.

    I feel you should speak to your GP about your sleep difficulties and disturbing images that you are experiencing and the cause of this. Traumatic deaths such as the one you have experienced can cause psychological trauma which amounts to more than "normal" grief. There are more options available than just bereavement counselling and your GP will be best placed to advise. It is a good idea to get on a waiting list for treatment sooner rather than later (given they can be months). My advice is not to hold back in terms of asking for support especially given the difficulties you are having sleeping. 

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    As Violet says, I'm very sorry you've had to go through this trauma and my condolences on your loss.

    I feel you should speak to your GP about your sleep difficulties and disturbing images that you are experiencing and the cause of this. Traumatic deaths such as the one you have experienced can cause psychological trauma which amounts to more than "normal" grief. There are more options available than just bereavement counselling and your GP will be best placed to advise. It is a good idea to get on a waiting list for treatment sooner rather than later (given they can be months). My advice is not to hold back in terms of asking for support especially given the difficulties you are having sleeping. 

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