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Lost Mum to Pancreatic cancer, struggling with grief

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We lost my beautiful 71 year old Mum 4 weeks ago to pancreatic cancer. It was around 18 months after the initial diagnosis. We had the funeral yesterday where we did her proud. She was a lovely, kind lady, who was our rock. I'm not sure where the last 4 weeks have gone - in a blur of tears mainly. I did not realise how hard it would be to lose your Mum, even though we were pretty much prepared for it. We watched her struggle in the last day and that's one thing I can't get out of my head. I now have a longing for the past and can't see how I'll ever look forward to anything without Mum there. Does it get any better?

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    I'm so sorry for your loss and the pain you are feeling. i have no advice but I'm thinking of you and your family and just know your mum is always by your side, when you need her! 
     

    i lost my 74yo granda, my best friend, my soul mate and who was pretty much my dad as my mum was a single parent and we lived with my grandparents 3 weeks ago.

     

    I feel as though the grief, for me, is getting worse. I had hoped that with time, although still so early on, that I would have better days. In the first days after we lost him I had my good hours, my bad hours and my good days or bad days, but now, I am constantly sad, I miss him so much. There is no good days. All this week I have cried from the minute I've woke up till I've gone to bed. I am so thankful for my two little girls as if it wasn't for them needing me to be present, I'm afraid I'd be much much worse than I am now. 

    I'm sorry this isn't a very positive reply, but I hope with time and strength from somewhere that somehow we can face the world again and smile but just know you are so not alone and I'm always here if you need to chat. 

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    I'm so sorry for your loss and the pain you are feeling. i have no advice but I'm thinking of you and your family and just know your mum is always by your side, when you need her! 
     

    i lost my 74yo granda, my best friend, my soul mate and who was pretty much my dad as my mum was a single parent and we lived with my grandparents 3 weeks ago.

     

    I feel as though the grief, for me, is getting worse. I had hoped that with time, although still so early on, that I would have better days. In the first days after we lost him I had my good hours, my bad hours and my good days or bad days, but now, I am constantly sad, I miss him so much. There is no good days. All this week I have cried from the minute I've woke up till I've gone to bed. I am so thankful for my two little girls as if it wasn't for them needing me to be present, I'm afraid I'd be much much worse than I am now. 

    I'm sorry this isn't a very positive reply, but I hope with time and strength from somewhere that somehow we can face the world again and smile but just know you are so not alone and I'm always here if you need to chat. 

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