Mum passed away sunday 29th may. Its been almost a week and i dont feel anything. I just feel extremely tired, i havent gone home yet and dont feel ready to face reality. How do i make myself believe shes gone?
Hello Hannah. You feel numb because you are in shock. You have probably been on auto-pilot whilst caring for your mum, and it can take a while for the reality to hit you. I nursed my mum when she was dying of cancer and for a very long time, it didn't seem real. I remember I was at work one day, 6 months after my mum had died, and I decided to phone her........and then it dawned on me that she wasn't here any more.
It was quite a few years before I was even able to cry over her. Grief is a strange thing Hannah. It affects everyone in a different way. It took a friend of mine nearly 20 years before he was able to cry over the death of his baby sister. You must be exhausted, so get plenty of rest, and do things that make you feel relaxed. I personally find that being near nature rejuventates me......going for walks near rivers and walking through parks and woodlands. Your mind and body is traumatised and you need to care for yourself and start recovering. Eventually the reality of losing your mum will come. Take care Hannah, and once again, so sorry for your loss, Violet, xx
Hello Hannah. You feel numb because you are in shock. You have probably been on auto-pilot whilst caring for your mum, and it can take a while for the reality to hit you. I nursed my mum when she was dying of cancer and for a very long time, it didn't seem real. I remember I was at work one day, 6 months after my mum had died, and I decided to phone her........and then it dawned on me that she wasn't here any more.
It was quite a few years before I was even able to cry over her. Grief is a strange thing Hannah. It affects everyone in a different way. It took a friend of mine nearly 20 years before he was able to cry over the death of his baby sister. You must be exhausted, so get plenty of rest, and do things that make you feel relaxed. I personally find that being near nature rejuventates me......going for walks near rivers and walking through parks and woodlands. Your mind and body is traumatised and you need to care for yourself and start recovering. Eventually the reality of losing your mum will come. Take care Hannah, and once again, so sorry for your loss, Violet, xx
my mum too passes away on the 27th May. I miss her so much already and it's sad but also gives me closures knowing that the last day I will physically see again her will be at the funeral and it will hit a lot harder.
It's totally normal feeling numb and it comes in waves and goes.
Im sorry to hear about your mum but after reading your journey she was bedbound like my mum which was horrible to witness. Did you manage to make amends with your family? Are they being supportive? You were amazing coping with everything and making hard decisions. Trust that you made the right ones. Your mum would be so proud of you
Thanks for your response. Im sorry to hear about your mum. It is strange..i cried so much in the weeks running up to her death watching her i feel burnt out. I am going to take alot of time out for self care and reflection, and perhaps invest in some counselling to try to unravel everything. I will also try walks alone in the park and maybe exercise.
I feel sad when i see my friends with their mums because you realise your mun was the only person you could always rely on and shes gone.
I might go and see her body to try and process this.
On top of that i am requesting all her medical records, i have a lot of unanswered questions and i need to make sense of what happened to her.
