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Boyfriend ended things just as my mum is dying

Claireh26
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Hi all

I'm not really sure why I'm posting this to be honest. I think I'm reeling from the shock and need some positive support.  
 

I lost my dad suddenly in March this year to a heart attack. I found him lying dead which traumatises me to this day. Now my beloved Mum is in hospital slowly and painfully passing away from cancer. Im by her bedside as I write this. 
ive been really struggling with my mental health since my Mum was diagnosed in April last year and as trauma has happened my MH has worsened. I'm not going to say I've been an easy person to be around but I've been struggling to cope and my (now ex) bf hasn't been supportive. Then out of the blue yesterday he suddenly says he doesn't see us living together anymore (I'm currently in London to be close to the hdospital) he's at the house we used to live in together in Essex. This has totally floored me and I feel like I'm so alone and vulnerable. I didn't see this coming and thought he would be with me through thick and thin. He hasn't been supportive at all and I should probably have left the relationship myself earlier but I needed people around me. Now I feel so let down, everyone I get close to either dies or leaves me; feeling so hurt and alone now I am at my lowest point and it really hurts: I just want my mum back to tell me it's all ok

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    Hi Claire,

    So sorry to read about your Dad and nowe your Mum. I can understand because 2 weeks ago I was sat with my Mum every day and night in hospital hoping and praying she would pull through and right up to the last few hours of her life I still hoped for this, there is nothing worse than watching and being with the person you love most in the world and seeing them slip away from you. I still can't believe my Mum has gone forever and to be honest I am absolutely struggling to get through the day, I am lost, lonely and need my Mum.

    With regards your ex boyfriend, you knew in your heart he was not supporting you and he has proven this. Please don't concentrate on him now, be with and focus on your Mum. Your Mum is important and you need to process everything that you are going through with Mum.

    Take each hour as it comes, we are all here to support you anytime you need to talk, you are not alone.

    Jane 

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    Hi Claire,

    So sorry to read about your Dad and nowe your Mum. I can understand because 2 weeks ago I was sat with my Mum every day and night in hospital hoping and praying she would pull through and right up to the last few hours of her life I still hoped for this, there is nothing worse than watching and being with the person you love most in the world and seeing them slip away from you. I still can't believe my Mum has gone forever and to be honest I am absolutely struggling to get through the day, I am lost, lonely and need my Mum.

    With regards your ex boyfriend, you knew in your heart he was not supporting you and he has proven this. Please don't concentrate on him now, be with and focus on your Mum. Your Mum is important and you need to process everything that you are going through with Mum.

    Take each hour as it comes, we are all here to support you anytime you need to talk, you are not alone.

    Jane 

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