My Dad

I have the most amazing dad.  He has been my rock and my world all my life. I have this week found out he has terminal cancer. 
I know our parents get older and they sadly pass.  I am just not ready.  I don't want to lose my dad.  I don't feel I can cope. 
My life hasn't been easy.  I was abused as a child by my mothers  dad. My grandad.  No family believed me. They cut me dead.  All by my dad. He believed me instantly and supported me to this day. My dad is the greatest man on this planet.   How can I ever get over losing him.   
I don't expect a reply I guess it feels good to say how I am feeling xx

  • Hi there ... so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment...

    I lost both my amazing parents in my 30s ...  I think it's the second hardest loss we have, second only to loosing a child ... 

    I'd just say take every day you have now with him, and make each one count ... say what's in your heart ... admit your both scared ... ask him about his life, bet there's lots you don't know ... 

    My daughter in law told me on my  cancer diagnoses ... don't look ahead .. don't do what ifs ... live in the day ..and take each problem as and when it comes up... it was the best advise I ever had .. and I try every day to find something to smile about ... 

    I lost my granddaughter to acute myeloid leukaemia a while ago ... she was 18 ... the thing I've learned is we don't loose those we love ... we tuck them in our hearts and take them with us through our life ... and live how they would want us to .. and please don't waste a day ... and you'll look back one day, and know you held his hand through this journey he's on ...

    Sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x x 

  • I had the most amazing Dad, he like yours was the centre of my universe. I sadly lost him to a glioblastoma on the 29th of November 2021, 3 months ago, but has felt like a lifetime. He passed in just 5 short weeks after he was diagnosed. 
     

    I know exactly what you are going through and am sending you so much love, it's such a scary time as you can't even begin to imagine life without them, but you will shock yourself at just how strong you can be. But saying that, you don't have to be strong. If you need to cry... cry, if you need to scream... do it. 
     

    it won't be easy... at all, there's no sugarcoating it, make memories if you can. Tell him you love him every day and as much as you feel like you will never be okay again, you will I promise, life will never be the same again, but you will be okay. 
     

    lots of love x

  • First thank you so much for your reply.  Also for sharing your experiences with me  I lost my daughter years ago and i guess i never thought I would get over that but as time passes it gets easier.  I am such a happy positive person but the thought of losing my dad seems too much for me 

    I love what you said that we don't lose them we tuck them in our hearts and take them everywhere with us.  My dad is always there in my heart so nothing will change in that way will it.  I feel I can take some comfort from your words. 

    I am so grateful for your reply as I am struggling. Thank you so much. Xx

  • Thank you so much for your reply especially as it is only 3 months since your dads passing.  I truly am sorry for your loss 

    You are correct it is scary.  I am scared to death.  I am a strong positive person and I have my dad to thank for that.   I am lucky i have such an amazing dad I am just scared to continue my life journey without him.  
     

    Thank you for replying when this must be so raw for you.  I cant tell you how grateful I am xx

  • It's my pleasure, just wanted to let you know you'll be okay ️
    and to count your blessings that you have such an amazing dad, love like he would have and when the time comes continue his legacy x