Hi there ... so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment...

I lost both my amazing parents in my 30s ...  I think it's the second hardest loss we have, second only to loosing a child ... 

I'd just say take every day you have now with him, and make each one count ... say what's in your heart ... admit your both scared ... ask him about his life, bet there's lots you don't know ... 

My daughter in law told me on my  cancer diagnoses ... don't look ahead .. don't do what ifs ... live in the day ..and take each problem as and when it comes up... it was the best advise I ever had .. and I try every day to find something to smile about ... 

I lost my granddaughter to acute myeloid leukaemia a while ago ... she was 18 ... the thing I've learned is we don't loose those we love ... we tuck them in our hearts and take them with us through our life ... and live how they would want us to .. and please don't waste a day ... and you'll look back one day, and know you held his hand through this journey he's on ...

Sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x x 

First thank you so much for your reply.  Also for sharing your experiences with me  I lost my daughter years ago and i guess i never thought I would get over that but as time passes it gets easier.  I am such a happy positive person but the thought of losing my dad seems too much for me 

I love what you said that we don't lose them we tuck them in our hearts and take them everywhere with us.  My dad is always there in my heart so nothing will change in that way will it.  I feel I can take some comfort from your words. 

I am so grateful for your reply as I am struggling. Thank you so much. Xx

First thank you so much for your reply.  Also for sharing your experiences with me  I lost my daughter years ago and i guess i never thought I would get over that but as time passes it gets easier.  I am such a happy positive person but the thought of losing my dad seems too much for me 

I love what you said that we don't lose them we tuck them in our hearts and take them everywhere with us.  My dad is always there in my heart so nothing will change in that way will it.  I feel I can take some comfort from your words. 

I am so grateful for your reply as I am struggling. Thank you so much. Xx