Hi,

Just read your message and had to reply. I am so so so sorry for your Dad passing away. I can't know what your going through right now because I am blessed to still have both my parents but I can only imagine the pain you must be feeling. My Mum has just been diagnosed with lung cancer (Incurable) still waiting on appointment with Oncologist but all I have thought of since her diagnosis is how I will ever keep going when she is gone (which is so selfish I know because she is still here but its made me face the reality of losing her). I live with my Mum, have done for 7 years now and before that we worked together for 10 years, she is my best friend, my everything. I can imagine the way you are now thinking, wanting to call him, hear his voice and knowing you can't. It is something that I have asked myself 100 times recently "How do we ever accept/get through the pain of never seeing again the people we love so much?" and I have no answers because I know the pain can't just disappear. If we deeply love someone the pain is ever greater when they are gone. But how blessed are we to have had someone so special in our lives that we have these wonderful loving memories and love in our hearts for them all our life. I guess what I'm trying to say is some people never know what it is like to love and be loved by someone that deeply. I know that won't help you or take away your pain and I wish I could help you, I really do. I know people have said it has to be a day by day getting through, there is no other way but just try to get through one day at a time, the pain can't be rushed over. Hold onto those precious memories and the love between you in your heart and know your Dad wants the best for you always. I can completely understand you feeling emotions like anger, its a normal feeling when you are going through bereavement. You don't want you Dad 'at peace now' you want him home with you again, thats understandable completely. People mean well but often their comments hit to our hearts. I'm here if you ever need a rant or a chat. take good care of yourself.

Jane

Hi,

Just read your message and had to reply. I am so so so sorry for your Dad passing away. I can't know what your going through right now because I am blessed to still have both my parents but I can only imagine the pain you must be feeling. My Mum has just been diagnosed with lung cancer (Incurable) still waiting on appointment with Oncologist but all I have thought of since her diagnosis is how I will ever keep going when she is gone (which is so selfish I know because she is still here but its made me face the reality of losing her). I live with my Mum, have done for 7 years now and before that we worked together for 10 years, she is my best friend, my everything. I can imagine the way you are now thinking, wanting to call him, hear his voice and knowing you can't. It is something that I have asked myself 100 times recently "How do we ever accept/get through the pain of never seeing again the people we love so much?" and I have no answers because I know the pain can't just disappear. If we deeply love someone the pain is ever greater when they are gone. But how blessed are we to have had someone so special in our lives that we have these wonderful loving memories and love in our hearts for them all our life. I guess what I'm trying to say is some people never know what it is like to love and be loved by someone that deeply. I know that won't help you or take away your pain and I wish I could help you, I really do. I know people have said it has to be a day by day getting through, there is no other way but just try to get through one day at a time, the pain can't be rushed over. Hold onto those precious memories and the love between you in your heart and know your Dad wants the best for you always. I can completely understand you feeling emotions like anger, its a normal feeling when you are going through bereavement. You don't want you Dad 'at peace now' you want him home with you again, thats understandable completely. People mean well but often their comments hit to our hearts. I'm here if you ever need a rant or a chat. take good care of yourself.

Jane