Hello

I am also feeling the same.  Im 46 and lost my Mum in September so will be having my first Christmas without her.  Last year we were separated because of Covid but this is a whole new ballgame.

The build up to Christmas has been endless, emotional, overwhelming and a struggle.  I worry about how I'm going to handle it, although she did say to us that we need to carry on, we should do Christmas and be strong.  It's not that easy though, but I carry those words with me and will do my best to make her proud.

Im also learning that some friends have been distant and, while I feel a bit disappointed that they haven't really checked in to see how I'm doing, I guess that unless you've been through this you never really know what is the right or wrong thing to say.  Some people may not want to address your loss and don't mention it in fear of upsetting you.  I haven't reached out to them, I've not distanced myself from them, I'll just wait until they or I feel like making contact.  I find that those people who have been through this generally have handled it better with me and don't avoid the subject - I think that's a common thing though.

The best advice I've been given is to be kind to myself.  Don't put too much pressure on myself to be one way or another over Christmas.  Just go with it, remember our lost loved ones but try to remember happy times to try and help us through. 
 

Xxx

Hello

I am also feeling the same.  Im 46 and lost my Mum in September so will be having my first Christmas without her.  Last year we were separated because of Covid but this is a whole new ballgame.

The build up to Christmas has been endless, emotional, overwhelming and a struggle.  I worry about how I'm going to handle it, although she did say to us that we need to carry on, we should do Christmas and be strong.  It's not that easy though, but I carry those words with me and will do my best to make her proud.

Im also learning that some friends have been distant and, while I feel a bit disappointed that they haven't really checked in to see how I'm doing, I guess that unless you've been through this you never really know what is the right or wrong thing to say.  Some people may not want to address your loss and don't mention it in fear of upsetting you.  I haven't reached out to them, I've not distanced myself from them, I'll just wait until they or I feel like making contact.  I find that those people who have been through this generally have handled it better with me and don't avoid the subject - I think that's a common thing though.

The best advice I've been given is to be kind to myself.  Don't put too much pressure on myself to be one way or another over Christmas.  Just go with it, remember our lost loved ones but try to remember happy times to try and help us through. 
 

Xxx