Your post touched my heart. My husband is 72. We have been married for 48 years and been a couple for 50 years. He has just been diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer. Like you I am devastated but try to keep a brave and optimistic face on for him. I joined this group as I know I can get support here and we will support you too. 

I also found my husband's lung cancer specialist nurse to be so helpful. I am sure yours can and will help you too. You can call them anytime, day or night.

Thankyou so much. My husband is 60 . We been together since i was 17. We only found out today. He has no symtoms at all . Its such a shock im deverstated cant stop crying . I need to be strong  for him but the thought of life without him is killing me . I will talk with the nurse tomorrow. Im glad i can get support here i really am . Thankyou x

I'm really sorry about your husband's diagnosis Joseph27.

I can't begin to imagine how difficult it must have been to receive this news but I'm glad David and Tootsiepops have shown you that you are not alone and that our community are here for you.

No doubt you're going through a lot of emotions right now. This is completely natural but if you would like to talk things through with one of our cancer nurses they're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

In the meantime, try to take things a day at a time and as David said, go forward gently.

Best wishes to you both,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Iv not stopped crying i feel like am greiving and hes still here. Im finding it hard to be with him  im just no support for him . I hate myself i wish it was me .

Hi i havent wrote back to anyone in months. Im struggling today Terry my husband had sirt radiation treatment on hus liver tumor. It has shrunk from 15cm to 5cm . But they found 2 more tiny tumors in his liver. Hes just had lasor treatment on them this monday. Hes in so much pain hes home now. I was reading his discharge papers they said the lasor treatment went well. But the big tumor has started growing . Im so upset when we first found out they gave him 6 months to live. But then they offered him this amazing treatment to shrink the tumor which it did. We felt like we had a second chance at life for Terry. Hes been getting bettet everyday and scans have always been good ones. Im deverstated the big tumor has started to grow again.. What can i do im such a weak person i suffer with anxiety and im scared of losing him. Hes my everything we have spent everyday together for 37 years. I feel like im a burden on my family because im not strong enough not to cry and breakdown. My family are so much stronger than me .I hate myself 

Hi i havent wrote back to anyone in months. Im struggling today Terry my husband had sirt radiation treatment on hus liver tumor. It has shrunk from 15cm to 5cm . But they found 2 more tiny tumors in his liver. Hes just had lasor treatment on them this monday. Hes in so much pain hes home now. I was reading his discharge papers they said the lasor treatment went well. But the big tumor has started growing . Im so upset when we first found out they gave him 6 months to live. But then they offered him this amazing treatment to shrink the tumor which it did. We felt like we had a second chance at life for Terry. Hes been getting bettet everyday and scans have always been good ones. Im deverstated the big tumor has started to grow again.. What can i do im such a weak person i suffer with anxiety and im scared of losing him. Hes my everything we have spent everyday together for 37 years. I feel like im a burden on my family because im not strong enough not to cry and breakdown. My family are so much stronger than me .I hate myself 

hello joseph27,

                         l was sorry to read your post and can understand the upset you face.. l am no expert but it seems to me you should rejoice for having those 37 years together,not bemoan losing them, and concentrate on taking the very best of each and every single day together from here on,The time for regrets will come in your future,but not now,now is time for taking the best from each and every single day spent with each other,

                                         tread gently and seek out every drop of happiness together,

                                                                                                                                           David