I am beyond deverstated my husband just been dianosed with terminal liver cancer. I want to die with him. We have been married 37 years . i font know what to do
l am sorry to read your post,not knowing what to do in these circumstances can take some working out,but try not to over complicate things.Eventually you will do what you have done for the past 37 years,your very very best ,and that is just what your husband needs right now
.A terminal diagnosis can have different outcomes in effects and time span for different people,and you cannot know what awaits.Having lost a wife,l can tell you a piece of you does indeed go with your loved one,equally a piece of them lives with you,giving their life real meaning until its time for you to make your peace.
For my part some of those who shared my treatment journey sadly were unable to cross the finishing line of successful treatment alongside me,but they sit on my shoulder,are no burden,and inspire me forwards to make the very best of the second life l have been given.
Go forwards gently,because that is when we are at our very best,
Your post touched my heart. My husband is 72. We have been married for 48 years and been a couple for 50 years. He has just been diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer. Like you I am devastated but try to keep a brave and optimistic face on for him. I joined this group as I know I can get support here and we will support you too.
I also found my husband's lung cancer specialist nurse to be so helpful. I am sure yours can and will help you too. You can call them anytime, day or night.
Thankyou so much. My husband is 60 . We been together since i was 17. We only found out today. He has no symtoms at all . Its such a shock im deverstated cant stop crying . I need to be strong for him but the thought of life without him is killing me . I will talk with the nurse tomorrow. Im glad i can get support here i really am . Thankyou x
I'm really sorry about your husband's diagnosis Joseph27.
I can't begin to imagine how difficult it must have been to receive this news but I'm glad David and Tootsiepops have shown you that you are not alone and that our community are here for you.
No doubt you're going through a lot of emotions right now. This is completely natural but if you would like to talk things through with one of our cancer nurses they're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.
In the meantime, try to take things a day at a time and as David said, go forward gently.
Iv not stopped crying i feel like am greiving and hes still here. Im finding it hard to be with him im just no support for him . I hate myself i wish it was me .
Thankyou today has been a better day. Iv stopped crying after 2 days day and night crying my face is all puffed up . My husband is unbelievable hes acting like nothing wrong. Hes not in any pain looks the picture of health i keep thinking maybe the doctors got it wrong. I look more ill then him iv lost weight cant eat or sleep. Im terrified of him not being here we are inseperable we do everything together. I cannot believe he only has 6 months to live . Do you think they got it wrong he has more time then this ? x
I can totally udnerstand your feelings, my husband was diagonised with terminal cancer on March 4th he was told 4 months with no treatment and 12 months life expectancy with treatment he is 56. We have been married 33 years this year and I felt like the bottom had fallen out of my world on hearing this news. My husband was a runner 5 times a week, ran numerous marathons and last run 7 miles on January 21st and was only being treated for a suspected stomach ulcer with his GP. He was diagonised with cancer in the stomach wall, the oesophagus, two spots in the lungs and the adrenal gland to the kidney I am so angry that there were no symptoms to this.
All I can say is support him, talk to him, make as many memories as you can, take pictures and above all be kind to yourself, as I was told by many friends and family "this is happening to you too" and above all it is ok not to be ok. It has taken me from March until now to realise this because of the emotions you feel. Keep positive you dont know how he will respond to any treatment. Big hugs
Awww im so sorry to hear about your husband diagnoses. We found out he got invited for a lung scan. He had nothing wrong with him but he thought just get checked out. Thats when the nightmare began . They called him 3 days later to say you have a 8cm lesion on your liver . So he had to get a pet scan . 4 weeks later we found out it was cancer terminal . We find out wednesday if they are gonna give him chemo. I pray they will . Im walking around in a daze if im not crying. I need to stop looking yo far ahead thinking about life without him . It proper scares me er are so close the thought of him not being hete in this house dont think i can go on without him. Thankyou gor your support . Im going to build memories while hes still here . Our son wants to do a bucket list with him. ill be encouraging jim to do this. Our grandaughter dotes on him their the best of friends. We have a nrw baby granson also . It breaks my heart to think he wont watch them grow. Sending you a big virual hug . keep in touch xxc
