Hi first time on here it's heartbreaking to write. My brother was diagnosed with cancer on his tongue. He had a op to remove the affected area and lympth nodes taken out plus his teeth. Had his tongue built up by skin graft. He was treated with radiotherapy . All was well he bounced back really well. Then October the cancer returned in the form of a tumour in his neck. He was was told they couldn't cure the cancer just hope to control it for as long as possible. He had chemo plus drugs. The tumour began to shrink, then they stopped chemo because of side effects. He lives on his own so agreed to go into a nursing home. He was there 2 weeks but hated it so went back home. His home, our parents home is a mess he has let it run down. He use to be a heavy drinker. He could be a difficult man when before this awful deicease hit him he's even worse now. Wont except my help wont have carers. He had DN in daily to change dressings. Even worse he is barely eating wont listen to any advice or except help. I'm at a loss of what to do. I work full time I can't afford to give ip work. If I did he probably wouldn't let me help anyway. Its awful to see this 6ft man waste away. I don't know what to do to help him.
