Hi angelM, i hate to say it but your going to have to put your mother in her place, tell her you love her but you can't manage try to get the carers there with you explain, hospice is the best place, she'll have 24 hour care anything goes wrong there's someone there, your going to wear yourself out and be ill yourself. Then what happens. Hope you can sort something out. Best wishes.......

Billy 

Hi Chrissie

Thanks tons for the reassurance, it's hard having no family to help me make decisions or tackle my Mum.

I love her to bits but I'm sooo scared something will happen & there'll be no-one there with her.

Virtual hug gratefully received

Hi Billy, 

Thanks for your message, I know she wants to maintain some sort of control over her end of life care but you're right, she needs to be in a hospice now. 

I was there all day yesterday & apart from the district nurse who changed the syringe driver she saw no-one else. Her carers come first & last thing.

It makes me feel better to know I'm not being unreasonable & trying to go in the right direction.

Thanks loads xx

Hello Angelm

Have  you tried Marie Curie or sometimes Hospices have a home care option?
As someone with stage 4 cancer I think a hospice is where I would feel safer but it's something you can't be sure of until you are in that position.

Hope you manage to find a solution.

regards Eileen