My dad has stage 4 kidney cancer, which has spread to his lungs and most likely other places.
He's clearly gravely ill, so I asked the doctor in private how long he's likely to have left. He said its not days, but its not weeks either.
I've shared this with my siblings but I can't bear to tell my Mum. She's in denial and I'm not sure how she'll cope.
On one hand I think she has a right to know, but on the other I think she may cope better if she comes to that conclusion over a few days as she sits by his bedside.
My dad can hardly speak anymore so it's not as if she can have certain conversations with him anymore (arrangements etc.) But maybe she's not saying certain things to him because she's still hoping against hope that he'll get better.
Its so hard coping with my feelings but I feel being responsible for this decision is just too much on top.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
